Update

[hopeitworks]

Hi Ladies- I just wanted to update all of you who have been so kind and reached to me
As you know if you were following my story I had my 1st failed IVF this month. I cant explain
nor do I need to to any of you how I feel, You have such high hopes going into your 1st cycle
You think ok this is were we are its going to work. This is the end of our struggles. Only then
to get that dreaded phone call.
My DB and I have decided to put TTC on hold. We arent on any type of BC as I was told it wont happen ,so if its
suppose to then it will. Not sure how long of a break we need. Its been alot of each of us. Im not sure some days who its been harder on. HIm being my rock or me being the one under the knife, and getting the injections.
Its taken me some time to accept that its just not our time. I actually dont know that I have accepted that
but at least telling myself that sorta stops the tears.
Im tired of being told your young!! Yes Im young but Im not getting any younger and I have a very aggressive text book case of endometriosis from what I have been told. I have had surgies every 8-9 months. So I struggle with wanting it now and being patient!! I fear that if we wait too long we will be faced with another surgery or even worse not being able to get eggs from me. But I dont know what "we" can survive another failure right now.
Just looking for advice from others in my shoes. Did you take a break after your failrure? If so how long? How did you and your DH get thru this?

[mhv]

I am sorry you are having to deal with what so many of us have went through.  So many of us go into this blindly.  Not doing much research, trusting our doctors.  Then, when the first one fails, you start researching.  You start looking at success rates of clinics, and more over the success rates of IVF.  Did you know, for IVF to really have a chance of working... in most cases, takes more than 1 try?  I read somewhere on average, that a person has to to 4-5 times for IVF to work???  I think the reason people tell you you are "young" is because so many of us on here are over 35 trying.  So, to us it seems like you have a lifetime to "figure this all out" and be successful...We mean you can afford to take a break, where as we feel like we have to "keep trying", "can't stop"...ect.
I hope you and your DB's heart heal quickly, and you come to realize that IVF while not a perfect science, does work and will work for you.  It just takes take, faith, and commitment.  I didn't even get to do a fresh cycle of IVF, due to a thin lining.  I have done 3 FET's and although 1st one was successful, I m/c'd.  We are getting ready to do our 4th FET (all have been with donor eggs).  If this doesn't work, we will be doing a refund program. Yes, we had shed tears each time, and we have wanted to throw in the towel many times... but, it is not an option.

I wish you success in your next try of IVF... cause, like the rest of us... I know you'll be back! : )   You have the support of each and everyone of us on here.  

M

[esmie1012]

Hi there! just wanted to reach out to you and let you know u are not alone.
I'm so sorry about ur failed ivf. I'm currently going on my 3rd iui.  Like u I thought I would fall pregnant the 1st try.... ok maybe the 2nd.  But with no luck, here I am awaiting my 3rd.  I also asked myself if I should keep going or take a break from all the fertility meds and TTC since I felt so deflated.  I just couldn't bare another negative result and felt so helpless.... But my longing to have children is so great, that I told myself that I will keep fighting! I truly believe we are dealt some hardships in life to surpass and I think this one of them.  Keep the faith and don't loose hope!  But if you need some time to work on other areas of ur life, that is OK to do also.  We all need our sanity:)
Best of luck to u!
xoxoxo