has anyone felt this way after successful in vitro?

[robertfrost]

I am officially 6 weeks pregnant after doing in vitro.  (oh, I am 43 and have miscarried before from a natural pregnancy).This should be the most wonderful time in my life and I am terrified.  My symptoms are off and on and when I feel very little I am scared to death that I am no longer pregnant.   I have read in many books and web sites that you are not supposed to show or gain any weight this early and I refuse to get on the scale but my waist is quickly expanding without a doubt.  I am uncomfortable in my biggest jeans that used to fall off of me.  I wish I could fall asleep until my pregancy was in the safe zone (after 12 weeks)!  I just feel weird, not myself and so very scared that this pregnancy will not take.  Has anyone else felt this way?  I feel bloated and cannot beleive I already need to buy bigger clothes.  And my poor husband... my moods are crazy.

[robertfrost]

I know... this is torture in a way.  I want to be so excited yet I know that I need to be careful and cautious.  During my first pregnancy which was natural I had so many symptoms but I know this is via in vitro and they say every pregnacy is different.  

Thanks again to all of you for your kind words and support.  It means a great deal and really helps!

[Helen72]

I felt the same way after ivf.  My symptoms the first few weeks came and went which was scary...

Good luck to you!!

[robertfrost]

I want to thank all of you for your wonderful feedback!  This website is so helpful and I feel so less alone and isolated!  All of your comments are so helpful!

[Kiki24]

Hi there!  Congratulations!!  I also had to buy bigger pants and I am also 6 weeks pregnant.  I didn't have to wear maternity clothes with my daughter until I was almost 6 months but with this one I had to buy bigger pants already.  Try to do other relaxing things.  Time flies and before you know it you'll start to feel your baby move. Congrats again!

[robyn53]

CONGRATS..... I had my my 1st and only IVF with my own eggs and  I am so happy for you. DO you know what the grade of your eggs were. We are going to try donor eggs since I am healthy otherwise. Once again congrats you will be ok.. try to think about other things. GO for a walk with your hubby, spend quality time with him and just do nothing. It will all be good for you both.........

[bny807]

its all completely normal!!! CONGRATS SOOO much on your pregnancy! : )    i said the exact words to my husband.. can you just knock me out and wake me up at the point that i can feel the little one move inside me to have the constant reassurance.. i'm 11 weeks and still every single time i go to the bathroom , still check for blood.. i don't think that feeling will ever go away.. but slowly i'm allowing myself to get more excited about it.. it is hard,after hard times i felt like i had to guard myself, because mentally i cant' take another loss.. ooo also the bloating is totally normal..  i have been the same way.. its mostly your bowels - progesterone causes them to slow down significantly, and anytime your on added progesternoe as well, that causes extra bloat! : ) all normal! HAPPY HEALTHY nine months YEEAA! : )

[40smama]

You're totally not alone in that fear - I went through it too!  As tina said, try to not stress about your weight (easier said than done, I know :-)).  Focus on the positive - you got that BFP & you're 6 weeks and pretty soon you'll do your 1st u/s - congrats! - jen

[Juana824]

Congrats! I felt the same way after I conceived via IVF after my miscarriage in September. I am now heading into my fith month and my fears have eased a great deal...I agree with Tina111, just relax and enjoy the ride! Everything will be just fine!

[tina1111]

Everyone feels this way that has suffered a loss. I am the same age as you and have been through several losses and don't get my hopes up any time I see a bfp. I just start holding my breath and waiting.  The fact that your IVF was successful is GREAT!!! The odds are less than 5% to start with (if you used your own eggs). The best thing to do is try your best to relax and take it easy. You are still in a very high risk area for mc and added pressure & stress are not good for you or the baby. Don't worry about weight or anything else now. Taking care of yourself is all that matters :)