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HE, ESLD, Cirrhosis
My hubbys is a Hospice patient and nearing the end, I'm afraid. Or maybe I'm relieved. How do you know when they are about to pass? I'm alone with him except for the once weekly visits. I'm 57 and not in real good health myself. One of the nurses told me a couple of weeks at best. Another told me until his pulse rate went up, nothing was going to happen. Help
Beckylou38, my heart goes out to both of you.
You have both suffered tremendously over the years.
I'm in no position to tell, just from what you posted, that perhaps
he's waiting to get your permission first, before he goes, but it is all right
to let him know, that you're OK with that, when he's ready.
Severe suffering and absence of quality in his life, is far worse than death,
for it is in dying that we're born to Eternal Life, as St. Francis expresses
in the Peace Prayer below:
Lord, make me an instrument of Thy peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that
we are born to Eternal Life.
Amen.
- Peace Prayer of St Francis -
Love &Light
Niko
You have both suffered tremendously over the years.
I'm in no position to tell, just from what you posted, that perhaps
he's waiting to get your permission first, before he goes, but it is all right
to let him know, that you're OK with that, when he's ready.
Severe suffering and absence of quality in his life, is far worse than death,
for it is in dying that we're born to Eternal Life, as St. Francis expresses
in the Peace Prayer below:
Lord, make me an instrument of Thy peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that
we are born to Eternal Life.
Amen.
- Peace Prayer of St Francis -
Love &Light
Niko
My hubby is very sick, he's incoherent, says the wrong word for objects, etc. At times, he can't speak, more like a series of stutters, grunts, etc. I know this is so frustrating for him, he gets so angry and confused. The Lactulose is both a life saver and a torture to my hubby. He's 62, been a heavy beer drinker for 30+ years, now his liver is failing, it's bad, at times I think maybe he's gonna beat this, he's come back many times since the awful 2 weeks in late Jan 2014, when we became aware of what is going on, now I look back and see so many of the early symptoms in the last couple of years.
We made out end of life choices years ago. Living wills with AMD, healthcare proxies, etc and he has a DNR. I'm just not sure how longer either of us can hold out. Prayers and Advice, please
We made out end of life choices years ago. Living wills with AMD, healthcare proxies, etc and he has a DNR. I'm just not sure how longer either of us can hold out. Prayers and Advice, please
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