Another death, how many can one family take

[jml1986]

I just came from the hospital where I watched another one of my uncles take his last breathe. He died such a painful death and my family and I once again had our hearts ripped out. Everytime we lose another family member, I wonder how much more one family can take. I was blessed to have parents that each had 11 siblings, which means I was also blessed to have hundreds of cousins. What a great childhood I had growing up with all this family around. You never ran out of someone to play with. Those are such great memories, but now as we prepare to bury yet another relative (it is generally 3 to 4 a year), it make me wonder how much one family can handle. I really have no questions, because I have been through this so many times, I just needed a place to put down in words the heartbreak that I continue to go through again.

[sinster]

i know how you feel. .. believe me i do. read my pos(t is there healing for so many lost?) and youll see what i mean.  

best wishes .xx

[grace1019]

I understand. I come from a big family myself: 4 brothers, one sister, my aunt and uncle had 7 kids, they have kids and so on and so forth. It doesn't get easier as I'm sure you know but as it was stated before, the bigger the family you have, the more joyful your experiences but the more pain you will have to endure. I have already lost my brother and my father and I am only 26 but life goes on...even though it's hard for those of us still here to move forward sometimes. Just be grateful at the times you have had and will continue to have as your family grows!!

[scot120]

Sorry for your loss . It's really hard to loose people we love . When we watch our love ones with a terminal illness , we start grieving there death long before it happens . My dad , though he wasn't in much pain , to see his frustration of being dependant on an oxygen bottle , was harder then to tell him good by . His last request was to have a happy funeral . We laughed at alot of the things he did  , but at the end when they close the casket , you couldn't hold back the tears . It hurts to loose those we love , but with time , it gets easier .

[suzi-q]

It is hard.  Very hard.  The problem is, with all the joy you get from many many loved ones and family around, also comes the pain of losing them.  When our parents and their siblings reach that age it is so heartbreaking to see them go.  You seem, however, to come from a very close family.  Whatever the future brings, take solace knowing that you have so many people to lean on.  You all stand strong together!  It is the nature of life..one leaves but one more comes.  The way your grandparents and parents made these wonderful memories as you were growing up with so many relatives by your side, it is now your turn to take over that legacy.  Remain close with the family and pass on all the wonderful memories that were passed on to you.  Those we love are never truly gone when they remain alive in our hearts.  May God give your strength, comfort and peace at this difficult time.