It has been 6 months today....

[HockeyShark]

On the Morning of July 23rd my mom suddenly passed away.

It has been hard. My Birthday, Her Birthday, the Holidays...

Not a day goes by i don't think of her. But some days are easier than others, where in the beginning they were unbearable. Some days are still so painful, all I want to do is sleep.

I look for less painful days. I feel for all of you just starting out in this process. i urge you to get help when needed.

forward we go....

[Heather3418]

Isn't it amazing, when we look back to day one, when we lost our loved one and really felt that we couldn't make it another day?  Then a week goes by and we look back and can't figure out how time went by so fast.  Then a month, but it still seems like only yesterday.

Sweetheart, I lost my mother in 1983...and I still permit myself to cry, when all I want is my "mommie to hold me and comfort me."  You never get over losing a loved one, the days just get easier to think about them, without bawling your eyes out.  If we are lucky, we learn how to share stories of great times with them and even allow ourselves to laugh.

As long as you have your memories of your precious mother...she lives on.

BIG ((((((HUGS))))) to help you through...

Heather

[Jaybay]

I know what you mean about just wanting to stay in bed and sleep your life away.  That is called "Depression."  I also know how awful some days can be when it's a particular anniversary.  It's so hard to stop thinking, "One year ago today, ..." or "Six months ago today..."  Do you think you're beginning to come out the other side of the grieving process?  If you find yourself spending more time in bed, instead of less, please consider seeing your doctor and trying antidepressant medication.  

I'm new to this forum so don't know if you've posted before.  Please forgive me if you've already gone the doctor route.  Antidepressants helped me tremendously after losing a loved one.  I probably should have been on them years before, but it never crossed my mind to even talk to my family doctor about it until I realized I'd been crying for weeks and couldn't seem to stop.  The meds just cleared the cobwebs out of my brain so I could think clearly again.  Luckily, I noticed a big difference with the first dose of lexapro and didn't have to wait a month for it to start working like some of these meds.

It really is true that time heals all wounds.  There will come a day soon that you'll be able to remember all the wonderful things about your mom without feeling like you've been stabbed in the heart.  :-)