Death Questions

[wvlady24881yahoocom13]

I am new to this site and I would like to join in your discussions. I Lost my Mother 3 years ago tomorrow on May RD 2009 , And it seems like yesterday to me . I remember everything that happened that Sunday morning i cant seem to get it out of my head, I had 3 wonderful days with my mother just me and her we done stuff that she could have never done before.I took her to get a perm and I also got a hair cut and my eyebrows waxed which my mother had never done before . I will never forget this i talked her into getting hers waxed ,and she said little girl if this hurts me i am going to smack you .And i just laughed and said mommy it wont hurt i promise you after it was done she looked up at me and she had the biggest grin on her face and she said why that didn't hurt a bit. And we all just started laughing out loud as hard as we could . My mother looked beautiful she had a new perm in her hair and eyebrows waxed ,We was planning a big Sunday dinner just for her kids , But that Sunday morning around 6:00 am I got a call that nobody ever wants to get . My mother had passed away in her sleep they said it was a massive heart attack and she was in no pain at all .I have 2 questions they may seem silly but hear goes. Do you guys think person who's going to pass away gets better before they go away?  And do u think a person might know when there time is coming close and she chose me to be with her for those 3 days ? And why she would choose me she has 5 children all together 3 boys and 2 girls ,I have heard so much different stuff about the questions I just want to know what some one else would have to say .    Thank you Teresa

[ksanden]

my mother had a surge of energy before her passing she acted as if pain free she had cancer tubing in her stomach due to the tumer moving into her bowels and was on heavy meds. she had been tired before and in pain and unable to do anything before this she went to the casino for 2 days went to walmart we did whatever she wanted we wanted her last few days to be what she wanted. the next day she was tired and wanted to only rest sleeping. she went a few days like this then she stoped talking and the next thing she is talking so clear when before she was unable she was not speaking to us, her words. Im ready now. she said this at 1130pm she carried on a coversation with this unknown person god i believe or angles but she new she said she was ready. i wrote the whole convo down and dont regret staying up till 330am listening thats when i fell asleep i awoke at 745 to my mother saying now in my head/ dream somethign told me to wake i was with her when she took her last breaths at 817am. my mother chose me also only wanted me no one else could touch her i have a brother that is a medic in the army and still she chose me who has onlybeen a cna. my mother trusted me and new i would do the best thing for her. we were each others stregnth i could lay in bed next to her and shes wrap her arm around me and rub my arm up and down. my father couldnt touch her nor could my brother her sister even becasue shed say im in just to much pain theres tubes everywhere but i could do anything and would not be told a thing. pple were gathered all around she could have asked anyone to get a soda but i had to do it all. she called only me. i hope my story can give u comfort. your mother trusted you and only you. she maybe new and thats why she did the things she did so ud both have great laughing memorys to share made me have a smile, those are hard to come by right now. my mother has been gone for almost 2 months on the 9th.

[forgottensick]

It`s ok. It looks to me like this is the grief column. My mom when home a little over a year ago. I didn`t get to be with her but was able to talk to her on the phone everyday. She died within 5 minutes of me telling her it was ok to go. I wish so much I could have been there with her, but she went on her terms and that makes me happy. Some people who are sick get to a point where they are tired of the fight and when they except the fact that they are going to die soon, it take a great load off them and they seem happy and healthy again. Don`t try to think too deep into why it happened and all the details. Be thankful that you were the one that got to spend her last day on earth with her. I believe she was happy and it was probably the best day she had had in a while. You are very lucky. We don`t know why some things happen the way they do and I don`t believe we are to know either. You will be with her again one day and I`m sure she is with you every day now.
   Dan

[wvlady24881yahoocom13]

That is what i thought i was doing going to the grief column .Like i said i am new to this and to be honest I don't know how to get to the grief column ,I am so sorry if i have offended you in anyway .I just thought i would check this column out.Could you tell me how to get to this column?