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I was reading on here and saw many mentioned they received care from Hospice. If I may ask, do you mind telling me which Hospice, When they told me that it was time , I said "NO" . I knew if allowed them to come into my home that death was around the corner. I actuall worked Wednesday and left for Smokies. We ended up In Helen, Ga. He was in awe. I pushed him in the wheelchair down to to picnic area for awhile, and neither of us said anything.Thursday, his G-Tude came out. and I had no way to give him pain meds . I had to give them by mouth. Luckily he didn't need ANY while were there. Went uo to a little town and bought firewood. He had wanted to stay at a place on the water and have a real fire in the fireplace.That afternoon my husband too the other 2 boys to play arcade games. We talked about things and he was calm. When the boys got back, he wanted them to go and get him some tea. Then I did something that I regret to this day. I told him "if you love Mommy you will drink something" He tried but he couldn't" I now realize that this was one of the sign of the body preparing for death. Thursday evening, after we had lit the fire, he just didn't look right. I decided to check his B/P. I could hear NOTHING. We packed up and headed to Eglesyon as fast and I mean FAST as we could, They worked with him, In the hall they asked me if he was a code or a DNR.
When we were coming in W/C in the ER, I asked him foe the last, if his heart stopped did he want them to try and get it beating? He said no, but I want them to do everything else the can.Long story short, we requested him to be sent to the floor where always stayed.He was on Dopamine for his B/P, but they allowed it go with him Once his B/P got up he was alert. Mickel the Pickle came in the room ND THEN OUR PASTOR CAME IN WITH A MILKSHAKE. hE TOOK 1 SIP. Mickle put glory glitter every one. The pastor still had some on Sunday morning. At one point, he reached out his hand and asked, who,what is that. I went in hall but say no one, Within 10 minutes he slipped in a coma. I sat at bedside holding his hand and his brother on the other.side. He read him some of scripyures that were special to him.At #:30am Sat. I lay my head on hi chest and told him "You can go home, I will be OK. Your misson/journed here was complete.I dozed off still holding his hand. 15mins. later the nurse woke me and said it was time. He was gone.This pat Jan. 31 he had been gone 12 years. Hisbirthday was 9/31. He made it long enough so he didn't die on his little brother's birthday. I know this is long and you may not care what I wrote, but I felt like I was to do so and I did. It doesn't matter how long a loved one has passed, you never forget them. There is a saying I read somewhere Lord help to smile today, but never let me forget that I cried. I will never forget him, and yes I can new smie even when I remember the bad things in the hospital, I can still remember things there we laughed at. He gave me an Angel ornament and I always hung it on his IV pole. He really like it. Tody I collect any all kinds of angels. I have probably close to 200.The days have bee hard when I see something and remember things,especially whe his brother and then graduation.( they were both in the same grade).Seeing he didn't suffermade it bearable. My MOM passed on Christmas Day 1996. She got some tainted blood after bypass sur, contracte Hep C Seeing her deteoiate was awful.. She would eat meat or any kind of protein and she would literallycrazy. That's when I started Lactulose.
I would give it to her until BM or Vomiting. Gave every 1-2 hours. When things happed they both came at the same time. Christmas was hard for me. I got so depressed I didn't want to get out of bed. In 2001, out of the blue my SIL was telling about a girl wanted to give her baby to some that would take him and love him. I just didn't know. I prayed and asked God to show me what I should do. I learned his birhday was 12/4, the same as my Mom's . That was what I needed to hear.We adopted him in August 2001 when he was 8 months of age. Now when we celebrate his birthday, I think of Mom, but I haven't cried yet. At Christmas, it is the joyous time Mom always wanted us to have when we were young and my children also. I don't know if this makes much sense, but as I said I felt led to write this.
Also if you don't mind answering the question abput the Hospice's. Lve to you all .
Blessings for health and happines.
Mommy52
When we were coming in W/C in the ER, I asked him foe the last, if his heart stopped did he want them to try and get it beating? He said no, but I want them to do everything else the can.Long story short, we requested him to be sent to the floor where always stayed.He was on Dopamine for his B/P, but they allowed it go with him Once his B/P got up he was alert. Mickel the Pickle came in the room ND THEN OUR PASTOR CAME IN WITH A MILKSHAKE. hE TOOK 1 SIP. Mickle put glory glitter every one. The pastor still had some on Sunday morning. At one point, he reached out his hand and asked, who,what is that. I went in hall but say no one, Within 10 minutes he slipped in a coma. I sat at bedside holding his hand and his brother on the other.side. He read him some of scripyures that were special to him.At #:30am Sat. I lay my head on hi chest and told him "You can go home, I will be OK. Your misson/journed here was complete.I dozed off still holding his hand. 15mins. later the nurse woke me and said it was time. He was gone.This pat Jan. 31 he had been gone 12 years. Hisbirthday was 9/31. He made it long enough so he didn't die on his little brother's birthday. I know this is long and you may not care what I wrote, but I felt like I was to do so and I did. It doesn't matter how long a loved one has passed, you never forget them. There is a saying I read somewhere Lord help to smile today, but never let me forget that I cried. I will never forget him, and yes I can new smie even when I remember the bad things in the hospital, I can still remember things there we laughed at. He gave me an Angel ornament and I always hung it on his IV pole. He really like it. Tody I collect any all kinds of angels. I have probably close to 200.The days have bee hard when I see something and remember things,especially whe his brother and then graduation.( they were both in the same grade).Seeing he didn't suffermade it bearable. My MOM passed on Christmas Day 1996. She got some tainted blood after bypass sur, contracte Hep C Seeing her deteoiate was awful.. She would eat meat or any kind of protein and she would literallycrazy. That's when I started Lactulose.
I would give it to her until BM or Vomiting. Gave every 1-2 hours. When things happed they both came at the same time. Christmas was hard for me. I got so depressed I didn't want to get out of bed. In 2001, out of the blue my SIL was telling about a girl wanted to give her baby to some that would take him and love him. I just didn't know. I prayed and asked God to show me what I should do. I learned his birhday was 12/4, the same as my Mom's . That was what I needed to hear.We adopted him in August 2001 when he was 8 months of age. Now when we celebrate his birthday, I think of Mom, but I haven't cried yet. At Christmas, it is the joyous time Mom always wanted us to have when we were young and my children also. I don't know if this makes much sense, but as I said I felt led to write this.
Also if you don't mind answering the question abput the Hospice's. Lve to you all .
Blessings for health and happines.
Mommy52
Bless you to my friend. Do keep us in prayer.We just came in the door from picking Matt up about 15 miles from here @ "Cowboys" Yes, he was ****-*** drunk. The smell of alcohol was horrible.It made me mad that Larry had to smell. Didn't think of myself, I am strong and feel I wouldn't yield to temptations. Gonna see if he will consider going back to rehab program. It would be 6-12 months. He will have to make the decision to go. If I do, then it will all be in vain. It has been 2 weeks since he moved out and last week (Sat.) he called my brother to come p/u. Tonight he called Bubba, who is an hour away. He has to be at work at 6am. I TOLD him he WOULD go with us to church this am. That is a new rule in our home. If you are here and the church doors open and we are going, then all will go. They may not want to go, but if I get them there, God can work on them. I feel so hurt. I keep asking myself, "What did we do wrong? What did I do wrong?" I know deep down it was nothing we did or did not do, but the devil just wants me to keep kicking myself in the butt.. Hadn't planned on this being long, so I will stop. Will get up @ 8:15am so we can eat, get dressed and be at Church by 10:20am. Will TTYL.
Blessings,
Madlyn
Blessings,
Madlyn
I love you,I wish you would have shared that with me.My heart ached for you as I read that,as I know you,I've heard your voice and little David's.Your strong and if you feel your not you know I'm here!We we'll definitely talk soon!Want doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.Since my Mom's passing I have learned that,to be so true! I have to stop taking chances.I have my little guy and you have your house full! March on! All my love & prayers! God bless,Jen xxoo
I completely understand what you had to endure as an employee at a Hospice and God knows that your heart is in the right place. I would have done the very same thing. I was layed off and struggling to find work. I interview and there are 10 more right behind me. God has a plan for both of us, we just have to trust him, help ourselves and He will be our guiding force. Hang in there one day at a time..Judy
Reading what I had written above, I see I put that Clay's birthday was 9/31..I should have written 9/10..I'm not looking for a Hospice, at least not at this time. My last job was as a Hospice RN Case Manager. I loved every minute of my job, so much that I was ashamed to call it a job.I worked there 2 1/2 years. New management took over and everything seemed to go downhill. Many times I had been told I took too much time with my patients. I understood it that when we admitted a patient, we also were admitting the family. We were there to meet their needs of the family as well as the patient's. The experience I had with Hospice left me regretting that I had not allowed them to asist in the care of my son. After the new company took over, it was all about $$$$$. Several times they told me I was spending too much time in the patients home and was not being productive. They went as far as saying I wasn't being productive. Long story short, I was terminated 10/3/08 for poor job performance.You know what though, I never left a home feeling like there was something else I should have or could have done. When I lay my head on my pillow at night, I didn't feel like I had lfet anything undone that I knew of for that day.. I agree with you...do not choose the first Hospice that is introduced. Even after someone has hosen one, and they do not feel comf. with them, they can change. I am still not working, but when it is time, I know God will direct me in the right direction.
Thanks for your respose.
Thanks for your respose.
Dear Mommy 52, your post is always welcomed here. We understand your pain and how difficult it has been for you. As yourself, I also loss my mother on July 19, 2007 and I can only describe the "ordeal" as life changing. Me and my family are in a better place, but my family unit has been broken and will never be the same, until we all one by one are reunited with my beloved mom.
As for hospice, finding the right hospice care for your particular need, will take reseach and you can start by contacting your physician or nearest hospital who can be a great source of information also, medicare can be contacted, but don't do this alone, have your family to help you and support you throught the planning. Good luck and let us know how you are coming along...Judy
As for hospice, finding the right hospice care for your particular need, will take reseach and you can start by contacting your physician or nearest hospital who can be a great source of information also, medicare can be contacted, but don't do this alone, have your family to help you and support you throught the planning. Good luck and let us know how you are coming along...Judy
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