I cannot cope with losing my mom

[abby51]

My mom suddenly and unexpectedly died 2 weeks ago It has been a horrible couple of weeks. I am extremely worried about my dad and how he will cope. He keeps saying he is ok but I know better than that because we are having the worst days of out lives. We have a great support system of friends, however, all I want is my mom to be back. She had not been ill and stopped talking and just died. I never expected to be so young (I am a college student) and going through this. I know it is not easy at any age but I just though we would have more time. People have told me I need to learn to work through the pain but I do not think that can be done. The funeal arrangements and the funeral itself were very overwhelming...almost 350 people were at the funeral...and I know all those people were there for support but very few of them understand the pain we are feeling of losing my mom so suddenly and unexpected.

[abby51]

My Mom died almost 4 years ago since my Mom died (in my original post here I was at the same point as you in which it had only been about 2 weeks) and, to be honest, not a day goes by when I do not miss my Mom.  I do still have my days when I want to cry until I cannot stop and where my whole body seems to ache from the hurt of her not being here but those times are farther in between now.  I did find a wonderful group of ladies who have all lost their Mom.  For some of them it has been 30 years and for some it has been anywhere from weeks to a few years.  We get together regularly every couple of months for picnics, potlucks, zoo trips, or just to sit and listen.  They have been a huge help.  Two weeks is just the beginning. Hang in there and message me anytime.

[suni923]

How are you dealing with the lost of your father now!? i see this is an old post and im just wondering. because i lost my mother two weeks ago and its so hard. im Like an emotional rollercoaster. and im finding it so hard to except. im a mom of 6 children. and all this is making it harder to care for them.. i miss my mom so much. how do i get through this. some days i even find myself a bit snappy for no reason. thank you newporttt.

[suni923]

How are you dealing with the lost of your father now!? i see this is an old post and im just wondering. because i lost my mother two weeks ago and its so hard. im Like an emotional rollercoaster. and im finding it so hard to except. im a mom of 6 children. and all this is making it harder to care for them.. i miss my mom so much. how do i get through this. some days i even find myself a bit snappy for no reason. thank you newporttt.

[Tina91872]

Dawn I'm so sorry for your loss.  I lost my mom suddenly to a Brain Aneurysm
on Jan 10th 2013.  I am 40 and mom was only 61.  She was totally fine one minute and then she had a headache and felt like she was going to throw up.  She was brain dead in like 4 minutes and we took her off life support 15 hours later.  I am still in shock and also going through the guilt stage.  Its a normal feeling but we have to try to overcome this horrible event and remember we have lives to live.  I feel totally empty and at times go to call her and remember she's not there.  If only I could talk to her and hear her voice one more time.  Dawn your not alone!  If you ever want to chat please feel free to email me.  Sometimes I just need to vent as well.  ***@****.  I will pray for your mom, you, and your family.  This kind of thing changes who you are for the rest of your life.  Sending hugs darling.

[fluffy39]

My name is  Dawn  and I lost my mom in August of 2012   and she my best friend and my everything :  She had Congestive heart failure and Since her passing it is still hard . My dad and I are trying to cope but it is hard . We go to a grievance counseling in the church that we belong to  but we both was our old lives back with my mom . I dont know how I can go on living without my mom in my life : I am 39 years and I feel guilty that I never had children and never been married : My mom wanted a grandchild and i never had one for her so I feel guilty that I did not do that for her .

[jenny71756]

I am reading this as I am going through grief right now! I lost my dad due to cancer and what you said all made so much sense. I totally know how you were feeling. I have the exact same feelings as you. I hope i can get through this. You are so right...we have no control over death. All we can do is have faith and ask God for comfort. Plus, we will see them again in heaven but for now we have to make the best of life and make our parents proud!

Thank you Judy! I enjoyed reading your posts.