Hey I am very sorry to hear about your situation I lost my brother August 8th 2004 and it was the hardest thing I have dealt with I have had so many deaths close to me. I am suprised I am still alive everybody I love seems to die their are 5 stages to Grief Acceptance is the 5th so you seem to understanding now, counsling helps Grief supports groups just remembering the person and foucusing on the good times is a blessing. I got on drugs very badly, I am now a recoverying addict. I delayed dealing for as long as possible (years), It is so hard but God does do everything for his divine purpose, and just know your loved one is with him there isn't any pain or tears in heaven, God Bless You. Grief also comes in waves so it will always come and go you will deal with it in your own unique style. Good Luck.
Today, there are incredibly many advice on how to grieve "correct" but the only correct way is YOUR personal way. It was you who lost someone, you who knew the person - your personal memories and thoughts.
I like the suggestion jml1986 give: One second at a time.
Let yourself start on the easy things, continue with the difficult ones and the impossible will solve too.
Allow yourself to unblock your thoughts. They are there for a reason. Let yourself cry if that is what you'd like to do!
Florena
We all grieve at our own time and in our own way. There is no right or wrong way, and there is not time line. It is something that you will do when you are ready and it will last as long as needs to to get you through it. The only way I know how to do it is one second at a time. Shower cries were really good for me, and talking. I needed to talk, and I needed people to listen. I did not care if it made them uncomfortable because I was hurting. Eventuallly you will start feeling better. But don't try to rush it, it will happen when the time is right.