how do you cope

[ladyhelp]

I lost my husband in May of 09, its not be quite a year now. He left me with 4 children- a 5 year old, 4 year old, 2 1/2 year old, and a 9 week old baby. I have no family around my area and his family was not involved at all. I just have really bad days I'm not sure how to ever move on and I know I have to.

[condoline]

Nothing hurts to the core like the death of a spouse. It is gut-wrenching, almost physically painful, exhausting, and just plain awful. I know: I lost my wonderful husband of 34 years back in 2004, and please know it gets better IF you allow yourself to grieve as hard as you possibly can. It is not possible to cry so much that you hurt yourself; your body won't let that happen. Just wrap yourself into a ball of pain, so to speak, and cry as hard as you possibly can. Think the most painful thoughts you can manage to think. You will be thankful later.
And then you will heal. The grieving process took me six weeks (an eternity!), but eight months later I was dating a wonderful man to whom I am now happily married. I still love the man who left me March 25 2004, and once in a while I shed a few tears. but I have moved on. I am a happy woman again, and he would be glad for me if he knew.

[trish934]

Firstly i am very sorry to  heat about your lost and please know your not alone in this...we are all here for each other. At this point where not even the family is closed by know the your Heavenly Father is the he LOVES you. You may wonder why he's allow this as we all do at times like this but know nothing happens by guest to him. It's my desire that you trust in him now even in your times of hurt and grief okay?
Wish i was close by i would help you with those babies from sun up to sun down. They are all so precious. keep writing and stay with us we here have all been through this period of time and are here to support each other. Keep strong love

[Rucnfun]

Hi - sounds like your going through a difficult time. Let me assure you that it will get better. It may get worse before it gets better though. I'm sorry your husband left you, but you need to stay strong for those kids!! your just gonna have to take it day by day and it will slowly start to work things out. you do need family around or friends so try support groups in your area, or mom's groups where you can bring your kids to play...since the 5 and 4 year old are probably in school it would just be the 2 little ones you would have to bring. its not a question of 'how will i move on?' its I KNOW i will be able to move on. think positive! you will be able to move on, and its gonna be really hard but you'll make it. I am on an anti depressant that really helped me after i had my daughter, im not sure if thats something you are interested in taking, but it helped me with my moodiness and anxiety. but for now you just need to stay strong and take care of those kids. dont think of the past or what might have been. think of today and what you can do today to make it through. good luck