Life is crazy. Ups and downs and love and loss.
One thing that has really helped me is just being aware that every single person who has ever lived has dealt with death and loss. Throughout all of time. It might be a sad way to look at it, but it's the truth and nice to remember that you're not alone in your suffering.
When something bad happens in my life, I always remind myself.. "Worse things have happened to better people". I seem to say that a lot these days.
It's therapeutic for me to create something during those times as well. Pain and suffering have been the foundation of the best music this world has ever known. I'm sure that goes for poetry, plays, craftmenship and art of any kind. And even if whatever it is doesn't come out that great, it really helps me express and work out my own emotions.
I watch a lot of documentaries. It might be depressing for some people, but for me it goes back to that whole "Worse things have happened ..." thing. I recently saw "White Light/Black Rain", a documentary on Hiroshima and Nagasaki. I think that brought me out of my last suicidal period because I just realized life could be a lot worse and I did have a lot of things I should appreciate.
I'm not sure if this post will be considered insensitive or dark to some people. But I'm just being honest, these are some things that have helped me and maybe could help someone else deal with their own grief. I've had to deal with the loss of loved ones through murder, suicide, accidents, illness.. more recently I held my grandfather's hand as he died and his last words were, "I don't want to go". How do you deal with something like that?
I remind myself.. "Worse things have happened to better people".
Take care.