a bad movie

[henry576]

I feel like i've been thrown into a bad movie.   I feel like i was mis-cast and don't belong.  I'm wandering aimlessly without a clue as to how to act.  It's worse than hell................its like i got hit by a grenade, survived and now i walk around aimlessly for the next 40 years of my life.


HPR

[Caroline565]

Sorry, I did not read you last post. I see you were attending a group, and it's "over"? The group I belong to you keep going until you decide to stop. It isn't magical. I have learned a little something each time I went, but it doesn't help us stop grieving, it mainly helps to describe the process and what we can expect. While I have lost others in my life including parents, stepmother, friends and relatives, I never experienced such intense grief as I had with the loss of my husband. I would suggest perhaps you explore around and see if you can find another group with people your age group or similar circumstances as I tried a couple till I found the right fit. Keep in mind, though, nothing is going to stop our pain but maybe in time, it will reduce to a more tolerable level.

[Caroline565]

Henry, unfortunately, this is part of the grief process. I definitely know what you are talking about. Life seems sureal--like you hope that when you wake up tomorrow, everything will return back to the time before this happened. I don't recall how long it was before I got over that feeling, but I would say several weeks. It is hard to accept, we have lost someone we love very dearly and the mind says well if I don't chose to accept this, everything will be back to normal, but you know after a while they are not coming back. I was wondering if you have attended any outside grief support groups? I think we can benefit by these groups in so far as learning about human nature and understand how we all seem to go through a lot of different feelings when grieving. It helps to understand these feelings are normal and felt by almost all of us. Separating some of the emotions can be helpful, because we feel so many things at the same time we often feel like we're losing it. Also normal. It is a rocky road but we will get through this. I am still in process myself. Keep the faith.

[henry576]

Thanks to both of you for your support.

My mother and I completed a bereavement group last week.  That helps..........but its temporary.  Faith is all i really have.  Some days i have it     other days it waivers.  I'm working towards trying to have complete faith someday.  The peace that i know they are in now, and that we all we eventually be in, comforts me.  It has to be a much better place than here.


Hank


Hank

[Judy246]

This to shall pass....hang in there, life is beautiful and worth living if only you give yourself a chance to simply live.

[Mid]

                          



I am so sorry for the loss of your brother.



I, can relate to you feeling like you have been thrown into a movie and nightmare.



With the murder of my sister 13 months ago, I at times wish someone would come and tell me its all been a mistake.



And feel's like this something you have read happening to other people.



I don't know if there is a support group over there where you can go and meet others who have been through the same thing but it helps a little as they reach out to you as, they have walked down that road.



Write down your all your thoughts in a book, it helps with the build up of your feelings and come in here and write away as much as you want.







Thinking of you

Mid