brothers suicide

[annalee223]

Hi my brother died two months ago  He hung himself he was 34 married had a little girl  Im his sister   I thought we were close  but now I feel lost and let down by him because he didnt talk to me.    I feel so so sad  at times  but I just try to get on    I have a husband and a little girl   My husband does not want to know of my sad feelings so I keep them to myself   and for my little girls sake I keep my sadness inside.   My brothers wife does  not speak me because I didnt go to visit my brothers grave after his burial      so that link is broken and I have not seen my brothers little girl . I still have not gone    Its just to hard for me    I miss him so much  and hurt so bad    My heart is completely broken   and I dont know what to do to fix it.

[alwayswithme]

Hi  Annalee,  I know what you are going through I lost my only brother he was 32 yrs old he passed from an overdose,me and him were so close we were best friends I have no others it was just me and him,Im also married to and have 2 small children I push myself everyday because of my kids its very hard when we are sad also its very hard for people to understand what its like to lose someone that means the world to us so im going to share this with  you remember we will be with our brothers again its not forever we will be together again and also your brother sees and hears everything that is going on in your life and its a prooven fact also when people come to me and say it gets better as we heal well i tell them no it doesnt and will never go away we will never stop hurting but there is one thing we do have to do is that we have to learn how to except so thats the word is excepting.Just try and remember that we will be with our brothers again.I hope this gives u a little help if you ever want to just talk ill always be here ok HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU SOON , ALWAYSWITHME.....

[mammo]

I am so sorry for your loss.  Please don't feel disappointed, your brother had to be in a bad state of mind to do this. It's not that he didn't want to talk to you, he didn't know how.    You can't move forward until you truly mourn the loss of your brother, it's impossible.  That's very uncaring for your husband to not support you during this time.  I understand you wanting to protect your daughter, but it's okay for her to see you cry, and know you are sad. Speaking from my own experience, I assume it is too difficult for you to visit his grave?  Put all this in a letter to your sister-in-law, and explain that you are all still a family and your niece doesn't deserve to lose her aunt as well. Let her know that you and her still share a bond, and need each other. Tell her it's all about the little girl and family, making a happy life for her. Sharing photos and memories of her daddy.  Your sister-in-law may be angry that she lost her husband and doesn't know where to put this anger, so it gets directed at you. It's not intentional, it just happens.  I think being able to see and share life with your niece would help the healing process.  Write the letter to your sister-in-law and try to mend this broken bond.  It will only benefit the three of you.  Again, I'm so sorry.  I do understand why you can't visit the grave, I truly do.  God Bless and take care.

[envy13]

hug i know how hard it is to loose someone you really love you need to morn your brother properly and that means you husband needs to not be a douche bag and care and listen to how this is affecting you and keeping death and sadness from your own child will confuse her when it is her time to cope with death. you need to grieve there is nothing wrong with crying, but by not being there for his daughter she might as well have died to you too, and it's not fair for that little girl not to know how awesome her daddy was or how much he loved her its your job being there your whole brothers life to share memories of him with her, things he can no longer do.