My son, Scott

[PromisedLand]

Last Thursday afternoon my wife called me at my daughter's house and said "you'd better come home"...I rushed home and she informed me that my 26 year old Scott had aspirated, no one knew how long he was without oxygen and that he had died during CPR, twice in the ambulance and once in the ER...he was put in ICU..my other son called then and said "you'd better get down here" (atlanta...we are in NH)...we rushed and booked flights and in 2 hours were sitting on a plane still not knowing what hit us..

We arrived at the hospital approx 1130PM to see him attached to all the usual life support stuff, he was in a drug induced coma and the general thoughts were he was no longer with us..we kept him on the support until all the family had arrived, slept 4 nights at the hospital..Sunday AM the neurologist did a final CAT scan and told us...there was no hope..and so as a family (My ex wife and 2 sons) decided to pull the support...we all spent whatever time we needed saying goodbye, and the staff asked us to step out as they did...by the time we returned
he was gone...

I know the grief and pain will be there with me/us for a while...I'm starting to feel better until I think of certain moments or accidentally call his cell phone, thinking I'm calling my stepson Scott

My heart goes out to all of you going through similar pain and grief...

we were able to donate his corneas..the remaining organs were too damaged for donation...

Scott suffered from depression, and various other emotional issues, and his immense emotional pain is gone...we do not believe this was intentional...

God Bless all


Jim

[480sissy]

iam so sorry for your loss i will pray for your famly may god be with you all

[PromisedLand]

Thank you everyone, and God Bless you


Jim

[suzi-q]

Yes, we are all here as we try so very hard to go through grieving and then moving forward with our lives...

Prayers to your whole family.

[Judy246]

My very deepest condolences on the passing of you beloved son Scott. Death has changed me and my families life forever. Losing a loved one is life changing and no parent should ever have to bury a child.

My mother died in my arms and I am very familiar will that call we all dread, ambulance, hosptial, life support, the passing and the aftermath. God was my strenght and promise of the ressurection.

We are here for you during those very difficult days ahead.

Judy

[PromisedLand]

Thanks to both of you...I don't know about strong...I gathered what strength I could from
God, my family (my 2 stepdaughters were wonderful) and a little group of people he worked with...young Christian folks and folks from NA who had just 3 weeks ago opened a restaurant called "Rosie's Diner" in Acworth, GA...if you're ever in the area, look them up..for a group of young people, they were so inspirational and a real blessing...and my
other son, Chris.....who was a "rock" through this whole thing...prayers for him, too because he is still in the Atlanta area (his home) helping his mom..

It sounds cliche but he was truly on the edge of getting his life together...Rosie's had made him head waiter and he (and I) was so proud...

But, as you've said, his struggles are over, he's at peace..with the Lord whom he accepted when he was about 13, though he drifted some...but I believe God knows our hearts, and he had a beautiful caring heart.

Thanks to all, I'm sure I'll be coming back

Jim

[suzi-q]

You sound like a very strong man...and I am sure that many are turning to you for support at this time.  I am so very sorry for your loss.  The void is terrible.  We are all here on this site to listen if you need to vent.  I wish you peace at this time.

[Beachwalker33]

I'm so sorry for your loss.I'm trying to find the right words to be of some comfort.I'm a mother and I can only imagine how your feeling.Prayer and time help a bit.Scott is in the most beautiful place,the lord prepared a place for him in heaven with all his favorite things. Just think he's happy and could be near you in spirit right now.God needed his tender heart for some bigger purpose.I read in a grieving book that it upsets our loved ones when were unhappy and sometimes they franticly try to reach us. I didn't want that for my mom, just in case it might be true,I've been trying to just stop, be thankful for what I still have and take comfort in knowing that she could't be in a better place like your son.I know this is the hardest thing to except but pray for God to take away your pain,if you have faith he will. God leads you to the place you need to go to find comfort.You and your family are in my prayers.Thank God for the time you did have and cherish it.I hope this helped.I'm so sorry if something I said wasn't right.I tried my best.