Hello all,
Over the past month I have been a regular on this forum (rummaging through various threads related to my experience) After reading through what seems like hundreds, I have been able to generalize my experience as a fairly "low risk" exposure. However, it still has not eased my anxiety, as this is all that I can think about. In part because I have read some conflicting information on other forums regarding this matter.
Anyway, the story goes as follows: My buddies and I visited a local strip club for my bachelor party (the club was fairly upscale, however, it was my first experience in a strip joint) Of course, they decided to buy me a private dance. I wasn't to keen on the idea, but I went along with it anyway. The girl (korean or asian) led me to a private area for my "lap dance" She was topless with just a thong on her for bottoms - she began the dance by using my bare fingers to stimulate her vagina. They did not penetrate too deep, and this went on for only a minute or two. She was also kissing me (with tongue) and rubbing her nipples by my mouth area. I was somewhat leery of the whole situation, but I figured "what the heck" it's going to be my last experience as a single man. This was all the "dance" entailed. No oral, vaginal, or anal penetration was involved.
It wasn't until the next day (when i sobered up) that i began to think I could have put myself, but more importantly, my future wife, at risk. I don't believe I had any cuts on my fingers/hand (I am a nail biter) And I also don't believe I was bleeding or had any open wounds in my mouth. I remembered I didn't wash my hands until we arrived at another bar (not a strip club, 1 was enough!) But it's difficult to be certain, and my mind has been getting the best of me - I have had symptoms of swollen glands, weakness, frequent urination, poor appetite. I am aware most of these can be attributed to extreme anxiety....but what about swollen glands?? This happened two month ago, and it has been all I can think about (my new wife is going crazy because I haven't been intimate, in fear that I don't want to possibly hurt her future)
I have had three doctor's tell me my situation was low risk, and didn't necessarily merit a test, but I went ahead with one anyway. I am extremely nervous and am hoping for the best, but I can't keep the negative thoughts out of my head. What does everyone think??
Sorry for rambling....can you tell I'm extremely nervous??? Thanks in advance for any comments/feedback....it is truly appreciated.
hiv is transmitted through...
unprotected vaginal / anal intercourse
sharing iv drug works
mother to child
transmission requires PENETRATION...as in the penis INSIDE a vagina / anus.
testing is not warranted.