Cold sore recurences

[Lordvoldemortofazkaban]

Hello everyone.

I had sex with csw few years back (3 years approx)
I had a few symtoms after 1 week including cold sores and cold The sex was protected and condom was provided by her  she insisted in using two condoms togather we used 2 after some time removed 1 continues with one only and last i ejaculated outside when she has given me a handjob and the condom was removed before the hand job

I have had cold sores before the exposure but it will happes once in 2 or 3 years but now it occure may 2 or 3 times a year what if my immune system is compromised ! Ifeel worried
My lymph nodes are swollen and painful after the cold sore  also i think i have had all symtoms mentioned by others in various posts

She may have had vaginal fluid in her hands while giving me handjob
Also i had a 3 day wound on my finger on the day of exposure
Also since she provided the condom also may be it had broken

I have all most all symtos in due course of 3 yrs
Also I have played with her bottom with my wounded finger

I havent got tested for hiv yet as i come from an underdeveloped country its very diifficult to get tested

I am totally worried now

[Lordvoldemortofazkaban]

Well also my submandibular gland has been painful and swollen
Every time i have a cold sore they become swollen i have swollen submandibular gland but not painful i am really worried

[CurfewX]

Being worried about HIV does not mean that you had a risk for HIV.  Zero risk.  Talk to your doctor about your painful cold sores as they have nothing to do with HIV.

[AnxiousNoMore]

"You have suffered for 3 years with your ideas."
The first step to peace is to accept the fact that you aren't a doctor so you should stop pretending to yourself that you can diagnose disease. See a real doctor who went studied medicine in school so he can explain that you have suffered in mental agony for no reason, or else seek therapy because your hiv fixation and your belief that you can diagnose disease is a bit of a mental illness.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  ( hands, maybe fluids from her cuts, spit, etc.). No hiv worries, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
You didn't have any hiv symptoms since you don't have hiv. The first step to peace is to stop googling symptoms cold turkey, the second step is to stop looking at your body  cold turkey and thinking it is telling you that you have hiv. hiv docs can't diagnose from symptoms so no one here pays attention to them and neither should you. Cold sores have no pattern (other than as you age they reoccur less frequently) so it is a waste of your time trying to make sense of your outbreaks.
If a condom fails it is a large rip down the seam and it hangs in tatters and is hard to take off. Microtears invisible to the eye are an old myth so that didn't happen and you need to move on.

You have suffered for 3 years with your ideas that you have hiv but the reality is you are perfectly negative so enjoy the rest of your life and forget about this non event encounter. If you had hiv symptoms you would have big problems and been in a hospital instead of just looking at a cold sore and wishing it would go away.

[GuitarRox]

Here are the ONLY risks for HIV.  Unprotected vaginal sex (with penetration), unprotected anal sex (with penetration) and sharing IV drug needles (injected).  That's it.  Nothing, NOTHING you describe is a risk for HIV transmission.  Three years ago . . . long time to worry about a non risk event.  You'd have known if the condom broke.  It's very noticeable.  And you can't get HIV from a hand job, air and saliva inactivate the virus.  80 percent of the world's population has herpes simplex 1 or cold sores.  Nothing to do with HIV.  NO risk, no reason to worry at all.