Nothing you did put you at risk for HIV, and your conclusive negative tests prove that this is the case.
Risks for HIV are:
1) having unprotected, penetrative anal or vaginal sex, or
2) sharing intravenous needles.
No matter what symptoms you or your wife are having, or have had in the past, they have NOTHING to do with HIV.
You need to go back and read CurfewX's response carefully. You simply never had a risk. Offcourse your tests would be conclusive at any point in time because you never had a risk, window period doesn't apply to you.
I urge you to seek counseling, you are clearly exhibiting paranoia, there could be several emotional reason for this, a proper rearrangement of thought can help you.
Be rest assured that you didn't infect your wife or your newborn. I reiterate, you don't have an HIV concern.
"I do have symptoms that I’m not gonna bother to list cause you don’t care and I get that. "
It's not that we won't care. We are only focusing to rationalize, you know that you have hypochondria and your symptoms are only pointing in that direction.
We have told you that you don't have HIV. You can't aquire the virus, there was no scope of transmission in any of the incidents described. We can't lie to you and tell you that you have HIV, because you don't. You don't need testing, you need to work with your therapist to address your emotional issues. There is an elephant in the room, you are actually beating yourself with this ordeal of HIV for some other obvious reasons, you haven't given your wife any thing. We can't offer you emotional support here. You need to seek help in person.
HIV is not your concern. You don't need to test. Please keep working with your therapist, you are going to be okay.