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HIV/Oral Sex/Anxiety
My Question is twofold. Although I realize the first part of my question has no doubt been asked many times I still feel compelled to post it. I recently for the first and only time visited a massage parlor and received oral sex from the worker. I have read many websites that state it is very minimal risk from this activity, yet you also read there is still some risk. So I guess the first part of my question is simply am I at risk?
Secondly, I am a married man who made a mistake and have fully disclosed this information to my wife. She has been supportive and agreed to work through this with me. I am very lucky. However, I am experiencing major anxiety of thoughts of possibly putting myself at risk and I am carrying a lot of guilt. The anxiety is affecting my sleep and appetite and normal day to day activities. I am wondering what to do.
Any response to both above questions is greatly appreciated.
Secondly, I am a married man who made a mistake and have fully disclosed this information to my wife. She has been supportive and agreed to work through this with me. I am very lucky. However, I am experiencing major anxiety of thoughts of possibly putting myself at risk and I am carrying a lot of guilt. The anxiety is affecting my sleep and appetite and normal day to day activities. I am wondering what to do.
Any response to both above questions is greatly appreciated.
Hi Joggen (and others),
I realized I never did come back and say thanks for your response a couple of months ago. I was very straight forward and matter to fact which is what I needed. I did seek professional mental health. I am still with a thearpist and have been talking my to my doctor about it. It has been helping. It's been a slower process that what I would have liked but I guess I shouldn't put a time on it. Small steps. I have experienced so much guilt and anxiety over what I done I shouldn't expect it to go away over night.
As for the possible risk of HIV (and other STDs) I was tested at 2 weeks and 5.5 weeks. All negative. I still am very fixated on a small scratch I received on my penis during the encounter which was likely inserted in her mouth for a few minutes. No running blood but upon pressing my finger against this scratch a small faint red spot of blood would come off my on my finger.
That's where I am to with it, still trying to forgive myself, trying to work through the guilt and get back to myself. And trying to accept that I have not acquired HIV through this encounter.
Thanks again if you or anyone would like to offer up another comment that would be great.
Cheers and good health to all!!
I realized I never did come back and say thanks for your response a couple of months ago. I was very straight forward and matter to fact which is what I needed. I did seek professional mental health. I am still with a thearpist and have been talking my to my doctor about it. It has been helping. It's been a slower process that what I would have liked but I guess I shouldn't put a time on it. Small steps. I have experienced so much guilt and anxiety over what I done I shouldn't expect it to go away over night.
As for the possible risk of HIV (and other STDs) I was tested at 2 weeks and 5.5 weeks. All negative. I still am very fixated on a small scratch I received on my penis during the encounter which was likely inserted in her mouth for a few minutes. No running blood but upon pressing my finger against this scratch a small faint red spot of blood would come off my on my finger.
That's where I am to with it, still trying to forgive myself, trying to work through the guilt and get back to myself. And trying to accept that I have not acquired HIV through this encounter.
Thanks again if you or anyone would like to offer up another comment that would be great.
Cheers and good health to all!!
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