Hey everyone - here is my situation:
8 years ago, I had protected sex with my girlfriend at the time, I was 16. She was a girl who got around though, had a few partners before me. Also, I performed oral sex a few times. About a month later I had a rash on my upper arm. This was in July 03, so it could have been a heat rash, but I know a rash is one of the first signs of infection. We had broken up for a bit, she hooked up with other guys, and that Fall we started hooking up again. Around that time I started getting canker sores in my mouth (from everything I've looked up, it points to canker sores and not oral herpes), the frequency of which has slowed down over time and I don't get them nearly as often. I was also on my high school's wrestling team, working out everyday and I lost a bit of weight (also a HIV symptom) that my coach had noticed at the time. I don't think it was more then a few pounds if I remember right though. Also, that winter I came down with a bad flu-like illness, which I know could have just come on from anything considering it was winter, but it was flu-like illness nonetheless. The following summer I came down with mono (also a HIV sometimes).
Today, as mentioned, I still occasionally get canker sores, in fact I have one right now thats healing and another seems like its coming (rare that I'm now getting 2 in a row). Also, for the past two years I've had an issue with my head/ear/back where I have a headache/ear pain that radiates to my upper spine, a burning feeling in the spine. (Especially feel it when I burp or push on muscles, like when going to the bathroom). Additionally, from time to time I have some muscle numbness, something where like a foot or my hand falls asleep. Not really frequent, but it does happen from time to time.
Since then I've had surgery once to remove a kidney stone and have been to the doctor and have had blood taken for numerous things over the years, mostly just checkups and the occasional hospital visit for an injury. I know that's not an HIV test, but I'm wondering if SOME kind of abnormality would have showed. As for the girl I'm worried if I contracted from, she's now 22, married with two kids. I'm wondering if something would have showed with her with the two kids she had, given all the tests that are run on newborns.
I'm going to get tested soon, because after looking up canker sores I'm getting nervous HIV is causing them, as well as the issue with my head/ears/back and the earlier symptoms like the rash and the flu-like illness. but does this sound likely as a situation where HIV is present? Thanks.