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Please help with a potentional risk. With raw rash on insertive anal sex

Good evening. I have read many of threads on here in the last week or so and ive been worried sick for about 10 weeks.please help here is my question.
About 11 weeks ago i had sex with a male im also a male i was the top i inserted my penis with a condom on but under the condom was a raw rash close to the tip of my penis im geussing heat rash or exzema. So ive read over and over on this site that my risk was very low as the condom stayed intact. But i find myself coming back to the site to ease my mind because it seems only on here people say even with a rash cuts etc there was little to no risk. Although almost every other site including webmb in its on write up about hiv says small cuts and sore are a very real risk. Can anybody tell me am i just reading what i want to hear ? what was my risk esipically conserding my rash which was itchy before and after i put condom on. What if there was movment with the condom or fuilds got under the condom and into my rash with out being exposed to any air etc inside of him.
Keep also in mind i asked about his status before and a few weeks after he said he only ever has safe sex and has never even had an sti in his life.but people lie. I do apologize if my question is confusing i have not slept well in weeks.
About 9 weeks later i noticed small red pimples i think on my back and ive had a slight head ache for about 5 weeks now. I have bad back acme (about 12 years) and also get exzema. Please somebody with know all on this help me.
What was my risk because of the rash being raw and maybe fuilds got under condom or condom moved inside of him exposing my wound to anal fuilds inside of him not being exspoded to light air etc.
Any answer would help.
Also why is it that almost every other sight say a cut rash pr small tears put me at a great risk compared to this site that states other wise almost 99% of the time.
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We rely on expert doctors and don't argue with other site's claims or will be arguing forever.

"my risk was very low as the condom stayed intact" This is incorrect, because you had zero risk, since the condom protected your urethra.
If you Google for death, you can always find someone who will tell you that you can die from whatever you plan to do in the next 10 minutes.
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Zero risk ?!? Even with a raw rash very red maybe broken skin. Possibly being exsposed to sexual fluids under the condom inserted inside. Also may you please address my head ache. Do you suggest testing because of the head ache. No night sweats no fever . maybe heat rash in back small pimple like pimples lol
The only opening into the condom is at the bottom. The fluids can't get under the ring at the bottom of the condom, otherwise if it was that loose it would fall off.
Ok one last question. And ill leave alone and i wont be so take up other peoples time. So because i was wearing a condom the rash is not a risk ? Or the rash is not a risk period only the urethrea needs to be blocked regaurdless of cuts, scrapes, rashes ? The only entry way is inside the hole of the penis. Unlesd the cut or rash requires stitches ?  
"only the urethrea needs to be blocked " Yes.
If someone needed stitches they wouldn't be doing anal or oral or even let someone else touch them.
Ok thanks for your help ill try and stop googling
Mr anxiousnomore.
Sorry to msg again but i find my self quesrioning this and maybe because of stress and fatigue from worrying so much i now find my self with a worsinig head ache and a scrathy throat its been 8 weeks and 4 days since possible exsposre . so can you plz answer this or should i pay to ask a doctor. But ive been reading threads and doctor hook says that an open wound or cut does have its risks and make the chances of infection double. But here we find that the rash or small cut even tears etc are of no risk when wearing a condom.
Now i undertsnad goverment web site have to put theoritical risks as still a risk. But has anybody ever got hiv from infection from a very raw rash where the body fuilds had gotten into the rash. Also if its kinda difficult to catch why do so many people get infected?
Mine was a one time kinda deal.
I hope i have not become annyoying to you as your answers have keep me going and have not let me give up. I appriacate you and your time.
I just understand how such a powerful infection with so much fear across the world cant get into a raw rash and spread into the body i dont dont get the science behind it
As we determined on July 26, nothing gets into the condom so that makes your situation straightforward. This is not a debating forum so I can't discuss everything you locate that makes you anxious. Consider a talk with your doc or a therapist if you continue to live in agony from Googling.

"If you Google for death, you can always find someone who will tell you that you can die from whatever you plan to do in the next 10 minutes."
Below is all you need to know about HIV.

HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. Your situation is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so there is no detail that you can add that will make your encounter a risk for HIV. No one got HIV from the situation you encountered in 40 years and likely no one will in the next 40 of your life, so there in no more likelihood of HIV transmission happening than of you getting hit by a meteor as you read this.
Thank you i will consider speaking to somebody and i will continue to practice safe sex no matter what. Also i assume when you say external rubbing you are reffuring to my rash being extrenal even though it was penetrated inside of his anus.
Thanks for the info.
Truly greatful
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