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Pregneant wife and poss exposure - pls advise
Hi
My wife is expecting twins (17 weeks gone) I very stupidly put myself at risk recently. I had protected vaginal sex with a sex worker. Before the protected sex she proceeded to give me deepthroat unprotected oral for approx 2 minutes. We then had vaginal intercourse. The condom stayed in place and I remove it myself after intercourse.
14 days later I have come down with flu like symptoms, aching teeth, green mucous (snot) I am in an absolute state of panick. My first concern is protecting my wife and unborn children. I have not engaged in anything sexual with my wife since exposure from fear of placing her at any risk. I read that I can take a test at 90 days!!! Would this exposure warrant testing? I have read the archives but the thought of putting my entire familt at risk is making me think irrationally. Please help. I am based in the UK. Thanks very much
Worried from Engalnd
My wife is expecting twins (17 weeks gone) I very stupidly put myself at risk recently. I had protected vaginal sex with a sex worker. Before the protected sex she proceeded to give me deepthroat unprotected oral for approx 2 minutes. We then had vaginal intercourse. The condom stayed in place and I remove it myself after intercourse.
14 days later I have come down with flu like symptoms, aching teeth, green mucous (snot) I am in an absolute state of panick. My first concern is protecting my wife and unborn children. I have not engaged in anything sexual with my wife since exposure from fear of placing her at any risk. I read that I can take a test at 90 days!!! Would this exposure warrant testing? I have read the archives but the thought of putting my entire familt at risk is making me think irrationally. Please help. I am based in the UK. Thanks very much
Worried from Engalnd
Dear Teak and Lizzie,
Can you comment on the green mucus..... what does it imply....any idea?
Can you comment on the green mucus..... what does it imply....any idea?
As it's been mentioned before, HIV testing is not advised for a NO RISK exposure.
If you obtain a negative result at a month post exposure, it'll only be for your own reassurance.
Condoms reduce the risk of HIV to minimum. There are many resources that claim it's 98% effective in HIV transmission if used correctly. In fact, 2% are left out to the possibility of condom failure. Condom breakage is the reason one can not guarantee a condom protected sex will be anything but SAFE SEX.
You didn't report condom failure, so you don't need HIV testing.
If you obtain a negative result at a month post exposure, it'll only be for your own reassurance.
Condoms reduce the risk of HIV to minimum. There are many resources that claim it's 98% effective in HIV transmission if used correctly. In fact, 2% are left out to the possibility of condom failure. Condom breakage is the reason one can not guarantee a condom protected sex will be anything but SAFE SEX.
You didn't report condom failure, so you don't need HIV testing.
Thanks everyone. I will try and put this behind me and provide my wife with the support she needs. For the last few weeks I have been a worried zombie.
Hi Lizzie
This was a drunken stupid mistake and I cannot begin to explain how consumed with guilt I am. In this case the condom did not fail and lets just say ill never put myself in this situation again.
I will get tested for any STI's at 1 month. I think this will include a hiv antibody test. If thats negative 1 month after expose should I test further or put this beyond me. I no use to anyone currentlt as the guilt and hiv anxiety have consumed me.
This was a drunken stupid mistake and I cannot begin to explain how consumed with guilt I am. In this case the condom did not fail and lets just say ill never put myself in this situation again.
I will get tested for any STI's at 1 month. I think this will include a hiv antibody test. If thats negative 1 month after expose should I test further or put this beyond me. I no use to anyone currentlt as the guilt and hiv anxiety have consumed me.
It's probably a one-time adventure that he won't ever do again, am I right, Mr? :)
If you've vowed to a monogamous relationship with your wife, then you should keep your promise and remain faithful.
Being in a monogamous relationship with a partner of a known negative status is THE BEST way to avoid HIV.
If you've vowed to a monogamous relationship with your wife, then you should keep your promise and remain faithful.
Being in a monogamous relationship with a partner of a known negative status is THE BEST way to avoid HIV.
" My first concern is protecting my wife and unborn children."
EVER HEARD OF CONDOM FAILURE ? ? ?
EVER HEARD OF CONDOM FAILURE ? ? ?
If the condom didn't break, then you were PROTECTED against HIV and did NOT contract HIV.
CONDOM PROTECTED SEX = SAFE SEX = NO HIV
CONDOM PROTECTED SEX = SAFE SEX = NO HIV
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