I am an American citizen living in Mexico City.
I am a married man, and I have used transgender prostitutes like 5-7 times. Most of them (4 encounters) were only doing me masturbation, one was anal (I was top and I did used a condom and did not broke as the semen was not leaking from the condom), and two were oral sex unprotected (I was the giving).
I decided to stop doing my previous deeds since two weeks ago (January 17).
I went to an HIV testing clinic to see if I am positive or negative as I started on middle November and it would have been two months as I am aware one should go in two to three months to be tested after a sexual encounter. I admit I was very nervous and came crying to the clinic. The doctor who attended me chuckled when I told him I did it 5-7 times and since most encounters were only masturbation, according to him, the chances are low and he considered oral sex to be low risk not to mention in his experience, almost all his patients had much more sexual encounters and he consider that very risky behaviour. I came out negative for the November time period.
I am going to go again for testing on April 11th as it would mark three full months to see if I come positive or negative.
I stopped doing this as I love my wife a lot, and I feel very terrible and guilty that I did it as we are having problems and quarrels constantly about financial matters and used it to cope with the pain. But I learned this is not the way to cope with problems, and I decided to do it.
I am now seeing a therapist and I told my mother, my sister, and my two best friends about my mistake. My mother and sister became very dissapointed, but are fully supportive. One of my best friends is majoring in psychology and sexual education, and in his point of view, chances I will come out negative are high.
I want to ask what are the chances I will come out positive from what I did? If I come out positive, can Medicaid in the US help me with the medications whilst still here in Mexico City or should I contact the American Embassy for help? And lastly, if I come positive, how can I tell my wife about it? I am very afraid she will leave me, and I love her to death and I feel very very guilty about what I did.
I need help, and with anticipation, I want to thank you for your answer.