What were my chances of getting HIV? Feeling anxious...

[kate82558]

I just got fully checked today for the first time and I have to wait 1-2 weeks for results and meanwhile I am just worrying myself to death thinking about it. I am 22 and had 5 sexual partners. I only had deliberate unprotected sex once in my life with a person I knew relatively well and he told me he was clean. That was around 15 months ago. I'm not sure if my other partners were clean because we didn't have this conversation, but they always wore condoms.
The last time I had sex was 4 days ago and for some reason the condom broke 4 times in the process and we changed it every time he realised. He was far from finishing at that point and he never finished inside me. I also gave him a blowjob but I did not swallow. I barely knew this guy but I know that he had quite a few sexual partners, so this is making me really worried. And although I never got any semen inside me, I know you can get infected through pre-cum too. I spoke to a friend and she made me calm down a little bit, but I am still very anxious and just don't know what to do with myself. I keep getting paranoid that I have symptoms after my last intercourse, like weakness, tiredness, sore throat, but then that was only 4 days ago, so it's probably too early to get symptoms? I might just be thinking too much about it and imagining things...
Also, I know 4 days is too early to get checked, so I'll have to go again, but how much at a risk am I? Other than these two times, my partners always wore condoms. The wait is killing me and I get so anxious and paranoid. :'( Thanks in advance!

[kate82558]

Thanks so much HowardH... I really hope this will be the case with me.  

[HowardH]

You describe a virtually zero risk sexual lifestyle with regard to HIV. And unless your latest partner is bisexual, an injection drug user, has a history of imprisonment, or other high risk factors, the chance he has HIV is very low.  And even if he were infected, a single episode of unprotected vaginal sex carries a transmission risk of roughly once for every 1,000 exposures.

And yes it is too early for symptoms of HIV.  Typically 10-14 days and never before 7-8 days. And your symptoms aren't typical for a new HIV infection anyway -- no fever, no sore throat or skin rash, etc.

Although the overall chance you have HIV is therefore very low, you should be tested. Every non-monogamous sexually active person should be tested for HIV from time to time, like once a year -- it's very unlikely to be positive, but better safe than sorry! While you're at it, get tested for the routine STDs as well:  chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis. The risks of these is far higher than for HIV!