Hypohondria or hiv risk?

[Anxiousgirl8894]

Dear Doctors!
I had an intercourse with my boyfriend with protection but I am still afraid of hiv! I can't have any more intercourses because even the condom does not make me feel safe! Now I am afraid! He says he doesn't have hiv but I don't believe him and not trust the condom use. I feel like I need to get tested after every sigle intercourse to have piece of mind. Am I overreacting? I will go crazy! Please help!

[Swelter_]

Firstly, HIV does not spread if you use condoms. Secondly, to answer your question, YES, you are of course wayyy overreacting if you think you need to test for HIV every time you have sex. I'd suggest considering therapy or resolve the trust issues with your boyfriend. All the best!

[RubyWitch]

If you and your boyfriend have protected sex every time, then you ARE overreacting! I don't know where this fear came from, but since you have reached the point of NOT having sex because of that fear, you need to seek out some help from your OB/GYN, Planned Parenthood or a mental health professional. When a fear/phobia affects our lives to the extent that we stop doing what we enjoy, it's time to reach out for help and there is NOTHING wrong with that! It will, in fact, make you a stronger person.
I wish you the best and hope you will get the help you need.
RW  

[AnxiousNoMore]

In one of your posts this summer you advised someone that condoms protect against HIV, so is it because of your distrust of the BF that you have grown anxious about the reliability of condoms?

[Anxiousgirl8894]

Maybe yes. And things I read in internet have affected me too. Deep inside a voice tell me what Im thinking is from unreasonable fear but I ignore this voice of logic. This is why i probably need phychotherapy.

[AnxiousNoMore]

A condom will protect you against HIV but not all std so you can visit the std forum for info on std.

You have HIV phobia so need to talk to either your doctor or a therapist to deal with it. You might want to mention the fact you don't trust him but he is your boyfriend, because it doesn't make sense for you to be hanging around someone like that.

[Hipokondriyak]

There is no need to worry if you are having protected sex but I can understand your comcerns pretty well since now I cant have sex with any person unless I am sure about their status. I believe I can get hiv from little things and I always look for symptoms so I think the best is to see a psychiatrist.

[Anxiousgirl8894]

Thank you all very much for your aleviating answers!
Im going to seek help as you said because of excessive fear. I don't trust condoms anymore, as I'm afraid that pre-liquid will get out from the sides of it during intercourse. Maybe abstinence is the most guaranteed way of staying clean, but my boyfriend will not agree with that and we will break up. Why is sex so important? It is overestimated. Anyway!
Thank you all again and wish you the best!