Anal or Vaginal or None?

[goodjoss]

Hi,

I was very drunk and had a csw on top of me and were just rubbing genital areas.  I think I passed out for a while because next thing I remember is her swaying on top of me like we're having sex, but only I could not feel any warmth (like one would feel if penis enters vagina).  But when I grabbed my penis to check, it seemed the top half was in somewhere and was rather tight, but no warmth.  Must have passed out again because next thing I remember was her leaving (not sure after how much time).

Next day, I figured one of three things could have happened:  (1) unprotected vaginal and her vagina was very dry and hence could feel no warmth, (2) unprotected anal - have never done this so dont know what I would have felt.  But would imagine that I would have remembered if my penis was inserted into her anus without lubrication and am sure even that cavity would be warm.  But it sure would explain the tightness I remember and just part of penis being "in" somewhere.  (3) Just rubbing and thats it.

Well, I had a rash on my penis next morning on left side (glans) and inner foreskin which seemed to be there due to trauma/irritation and got worse as day progressed.  So, while I would have preferred it being option 3, seems like its either 1 or 2 otherwise would not have gotten a rash if my penis was not in any hole!

She's from a high HIV prevalence area, so really worried.  I did start PEP but not sure I want to continue.  Really wish I could deduce what my risk most probably was (since I just cant remember exactly).

[mike_no]

It's logical to assume that nothing happened and you are overreacting. If you were so highly in state of inebriation, there is no way you could have achieved a penile erection, which is essential for penetrating in to a vagina or an anus.

My best guess is, your are beating your self up because you're feeling guilty or fearful of the fact that you were with a CSW, I am not sure what's the root cause here, may be you are cheating on someone or perhaps you are scared of HIV, whatever the reason is, it seems irrational and absolutely irrational from the point where you assumed that you could get HIV from this event, not every one is positive.  Therefore, your fear is based upon an extreme assumption.

See a therapist to address the real cause that's leading you to up this scare.

Good luck.

[GuitarRox]

Not really sure what to tell you.  Not a good idea to get so black out drunk that you aren't in control of yourself or the situation.  I'd quit drinking if I were you.  Rash has nothing to do with hiv.  And if you aren't sure if you had sex or not, we're not going to know either. But, likely you did not.  Why would a CSW go ahead and have sex with a passed out dude?  They'd be happy you were passed out and not have to do it again for the night, I'm sure. And most CSW's don't want std's/hiv either and use condoms for their OWN protection against the guys who pay them. Pep seems a bit of an over reaction to me in light of zero evidence but since you started it, it's between you and your doctor about what to do.