Scared

[rotaryana]

So an hour ago , i had 1.5 minutes of unprotected oral sex with prostitute. After that we tried protected anal sex with Durex lube but i only managed to insert it barely once because of her anus being too tight. After noticing it won't work i pulled out and noticed some blood on the condom.

I immediately got very anxious not knowing what to do, I took off the condom and then i noticed small blood dots in the middle part of my penis that was covered with condom. Was it my own blood from the tear? I tried dry rubbing that part later and indeed it started to bleed a bit.

I immediately washed my penis and tested if the condom didn't break. It didn't. I filled it with water.

I asked the woman if she tests herself for HIV she say she tests herself once a month and did test last month and she always asks clients for condoms but Im not sure if i can trust her.

So now I'm considering seeking a PEP therapy
should I do it ?

I should add that I was infected with genital herpes 10 years ago.

[GuitarRox]

So here are the risks for HIV. It's very specific and these are the only ways. HIV transmits by having unprotected vaginal or anal sex (no condom) and sharing IV needles to inject drugs. Air and saliva inactivate the virus. This is why oral sex is not a risk. No one gets HIV from oral sex. And the base of your penis not being covered or frankly, even if the condom pulled up and the middle of your penis wasn't covered, NOT  a risk. ONLY the head of your penis needs to be covered and it was in your case. You had no risk at all

[rotaryana]

Thank you for your answer, Im less anxious now, but let me just add that Im uncircumcised so isnt a retracted foreskin creating exposure are also few centimeters below the head ?
Anyway I was recreating what happened for most of today, and I figured the blood on the outside of condom was from tear in her anus and the bloody spots , I found under my condom where from the tear in my foreskin. But there was a condom barrier between these two tears.

[GuitarRox]

Anxiety always says 'let me just add . . . '. So yes, your brain is adding things. You didn't risk HIV from your encounter.

[rotaryana]

By saying middle parts of my penis I mean the middle of the shaft, no the head.

[rotaryana]

By saying tear i mean from the friction . There was no actual tear in the condom.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (mouth, body,  fluids,  maybe blood, cuts, bleeding gums, cut penis etc. ). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either.  You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.

[rotaryana]

Thank you for your detailed answer.  I was going crazy thinking about it all day, couldnt stop.  I feel better now after reading your and GuitarRox's replys, thanks for that.

[GuitarRox]

you are welcome. And if your anxiety makes you start to worry again, re read it. Don't ask again. Reassurance seeking is the hallmark of an anxiety disorder. Don't seek it, the anxiety will get less.

[rotaryana]

Thanks Yes, I know something about as I'm taking medicine for OCD , right now I feel that I haven't described everything detailed enough and that in fact I was exposed to HIV. Tested condom for leaks 4 times already....

I will just wait 14 days and do the new generation hiv test. I will not spam this board with questions.

[GuitarRox]

So,what is disheartening is that we told you that you did not have a risk at all. The testing is actually not needed and a sign that you are giving into your ocd. You'll test. Feel good. But then pretty quickly. You won't. The thought will start swirling again. You want to get rid of ocd? stop. Stop it all. No testing. No asking. Be uncomfortable. The discomfort is necessary to move past the thoughts. The thoughts aren't facts. The more you give into them by reassurance seeking, the more they stick around to taunt you. Don't test. Just get on with your life.

[rotaryana]

Thanks again. I'll try to follow your advice, although these thoughts are like an itch that needs to be scratched. But I understand what you mean, I believe you are right.

[AnxiousNoMore]

If you can't stop wasting your time turning non-events into silly fears, then see a mental health therapist..