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Slight Condom Slip?
Hello, I recently have been having condom-protected insertive vaginal intercourse with some one for around a week. Starting ten days after initially having sex, I developed slightly itchy rashes on my hands, forearms, inner elbows, the outer sides of my biceps, and my ankles. I took a Benadryl but they still are there. Additionally my lymph nodes in my neck have been swelling slightly recently. I checked the condoms and none of them broke, but I do remember that one of them slightly slipped around half way, but still on I think. Is it possible that one of the condoms slipped at some point and I didn’t notice?
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As long as the head of your penis was covered during intercourse, you had NO RISK for HIV. Obviously, this is the case because if the head was not covered, that means the condom came completely off.
See a doctor if your medical symptoms concern you, but they are not related to HIV.
See a doctor if your medical symptoms concern you, but they are not related to HIV.
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I see. Additionally, I am assuming that I would know if the condom slipped off to that point, and ARS does not cause itchiness?
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You would know if the condom fell off your penis because it wouldn't be ON your penis anymore.
You don't have ARS because you were never exposed to HIV.
You don't have ARS because you were never exposed to HIV.
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But isn’t strange that I am itchy all over and am getting rashes? This doesn’t typically happen to me. Maybe one of the condoms broke and I didn’t notice? I also slept with this person nude. Maybe something happened when I fell asleep?
You were already answered you had no risk. Condom breaks are noticeable and messy. Only the head of your penis needs to be covered. Asking for reassurance over and over is only going to keep your anxiety alive.
No it's not the slightest bit strange, since diseases and medical conditions (like your itch, rash) don't follow a convenient schedule that would allow a doctor to say it's not time to have a rash. The reality is you can get cancer, itches, colds, sore muscles, or rashes etc. at any time with zero notice - perfect example being your current rash. Maybe you got bedbugs or are exposed to a chemical irritant -idk so see doc if you want to get rid of the problem instead of thinking about the impossible.
Therefore it is time for you to stop trying to diagnose hiv, based on a faulty disease scheduling idea, because hiv is a disease you can't even have.
hiv is just the first thing you thought of, and for some reason you have been unwilling to let it go and pursue the realistic event that could have actually happened to you instead.
You're ideas are now getting silly, thinking someone had vaginal or anal sex with you while you slept through it. And they likely would have had to do it for a while because a few seconds is unlikely to be long enough for hiv virus transmission.
Wearing 2 condoms is dangerous because friction can make them rupture so don't do that again, but rupture didn't happen because the rupture is always wide open, down the seam, so no one can miss that.
Therefore it is time for you to stop trying to diagnose hiv, based on a faulty disease scheduling idea, because hiv is a disease you can't even have.
hiv is just the first thing you thought of, and for some reason you have been unwilling to let it go and pursue the realistic event that could have actually happened to you instead.
You're ideas are now getting silly, thinking someone had vaginal or anal sex with you while you slept through it. And they likely would have had to do it for a while because a few seconds is unlikely to be long enough for hiv virus transmission.
Wearing 2 condoms is dangerous because friction can make them rupture so don't do that again, but rupture didn't happen because the rupture is always wide open, down the seam, so no one can miss that.
That’s true, I probably just feel guilty about having sex again while knowing that casual sex triggers my OCD. I also did not wear a double condom, I just meant that out of the multiple different times we had sex maybe one of them slipped or broke.
I knew what you meant. This is anxiety talking. If you have ocd, you know that our reassurance just keeps you stuck in your mental health. No risk. Move on.
Hi again, so if the head of my penis was constantly touching a portion of her skin, would this be an hiv risk? I’m asking because I ended up coming down with something around 16 days after initial exposure (sudden and intense fatigue and very slight sore throat).
You already explained what happened so no there's need to ever go over it again, or we'll be doing this file for months. Move on.
A risk doesn't turn into a risk because you are still worrying about it. Said with kindness. I clearly see how anxious you are but it's not a risk. Getting sick happens. ALL the time. And it has nothing to do with a non risk sexual event that you had.
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air (maybe blood, maybe cuts, penis touching body, etc. ) . You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
If you still have questions about your risk, after reading all of the above, then it is because you didn't answer the QUESTION above.
This isn't your first sore throat or rash and you didn't get hiv last time, so there is no need to go to pieces over this sore throat. See a mental health therapist for your hiv fixation, so you can get back to your normal life.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
If you still have questions about your risk, after reading all of the above, then it is because you didn't answer the QUESTION above.
This isn't your first sore throat or rash and you didn't get hiv last time, so there is no need to go to pieces over this sore throat. See a mental health therapist for your hiv fixation, so you can get back to your normal life.
Thank you everyone. I recently just reached out to a therapist this past week because of this. I felt like the person was high risk because of their body count (even though anyone can have HIV, regardless of body count), the high HIV prevalence of the area I live in (Atlanta) and the fact that they use coke frequently. I should have trusted my gut and not had sex with her.
I hope the therapist can help you with your hiv fixation, because your ideas aren't making any sense, and you're wasting your time with them.
In the meantime, since you didn't answer the QUESTION above, I'll do it for you. Answer> No, there wasn't a penis in my anus and she didn't inject me during the vaginal, so I had zero risk and should be able to realize that by now.
Honestly, you are over reacting. Your anxiety is the problem, not your non risk for hiv sexual encounter. Take care and god luck in therapy. It can do wonders.
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