You can not get HIV from testing.
What was your original risk?
Protected vaginal sex with thin latex condom, but unsure about condom quality, unsure if i used condom from beginning of sex, and unsure it remained in place, but sure it did not tear because i climaxed in it,
Maybe it is not a noticeable risk, but was the rapid test reliable? I saw she proceeded testing according to manufacturer instructions but by method number 2 for blood from finger,
No comment? It was a reputable brand of rapid test in many countries, is it as reliable as elisa 12 weeks post exposure?
You had no risk to begin with.
1 And are tests conclusive 85 days post any incident?
2 in "hanging drops" method, the directions recommended to make drop fall into device, or touch the blood to device pad to get the 2 blood drops into it, this was done by her for me, am i really safe?
1. Yes, you had no risk
2. I am not going to discuss testing methods because you want to question what a nurse did.
What do you exactly mean for number 2
You want me to tell you what the nurse did was wrong or right. I can't say what she did and I am not going to second guess a healthcare professional. Anyway you had no risk.