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Symptoms week after erotic massage

I get massages every now and again because I play sports but this massage place was new and ended up being an erotic one.  The lady slipped on a condom after the massage and we started having sex while tongue kissing. I then removed the condom and she sucked me off until ejaculation in her mouth.  I told my buddy about it and he said what if she had hiv then I started to panic but online said low risk oral and condom so I went on with my life. A week later (yesterday). I felt really weak to the point I stayed in bed a lot maybe a mild fever and muscle aches. Today my nose is stuffy and runny and I still feel a little week. I read online this might be ARS. No idea what I will do for 6 months when I can test. I joined 2 forums but no response yet.  Thank you for any help.  
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (maybe blood, maybe cuts, mouth touching penis , lips,  etc. ) . You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you ANSWER "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either.  You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
If you still have questions about your risk, after reading all of the above, then it is because you didn't answer the QUESTION above.

You can't get hiv when you use a condom that covers the head of your penis. Therefore your weak feeling and "maybe mild fever" are either in your imagination from fear or maybe you got a cold, flu etc., but it can't have anything to do with a disease you had no exposure to, such as hiv.
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Incredible answer, thanks bud. Wow
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