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Unproteced Vaginal Encounter With Escort
Hi, 8 days ago I made the biggest mistake of my life. I had an encounter with a ESCORT visiting NJ from Tampa, FL. I received unprotected oral and then she asked if I wanted to have vaginal intercourse. I said yes and like normal escorts I was waiting for the condom but she inserted my penis into her as she got on top and grinded my for about a minute until I realized I was nuts. I immediately went into panic. She said she is an exotic dancer in Tampa and this was her first go at being an escort. She claims she is 100% clean and has an AIM Certificate to prove it. She says she can't work without it. (Of course this certificate was back in Florida.) I am scared because she didn't seem to be worried about catching anything from my by doing that.
That's my story, here are my questions?
1. I know this is a high risk situation, what are my chances of catching HIV?
2. Is this AIM certificate something that she could be telling the truth about?
3. How long do I have to wait until I can get tested? What are the stats for each testing period of accuracy.
4. Is there a test I can take at 2-3 weeks to help with my anxiety?
5. Can my anxiety lead to symptoms of ARS? Within the last couple of days I have had a lot of pain in the left side of my neck where the lymph nodes would be and I have swollen tonsils. No fever to speak of yet.
I appreciate your help and advice, I am truly a mess and this is not something you can really talk about among friends and family.
That's my story, here are my questions?
1. I know this is a high risk situation, what are my chances of catching HIV?
2. Is this AIM certificate something that she could be telling the truth about?
3. How long do I have to wait until I can get tested? What are the stats for each testing period of accuracy.
4. Is there a test I can take at 2-3 weeks to help with my anxiety?
5. Can my anxiety lead to symptoms of ARS? Within the last couple of days I have had a lot of pain in the left side of my neck where the lymph nodes would be and I have swollen tonsils. No fever to speak of yet.
I appreciate your help and advice, I am truly a mess and this is not something you can really talk about among friends and family.
"I'm surprised that you would ask the same stupid question twice about whether I would have unprotected sex with this particular escort. But since you are so hell-bent on asking the question, then fine, I'll play. No, I would not have unprotected sex with her, nor with any other unknown woman who I was not in a monogamous relationship with."
F*ck you're dumb. I never once said this escort HAD HIV but that the odds you cite are not accurate for her case. Even Dr. H would agree with that I am sure. She has no regard for condom protected intercourse, but yet you say she is still low risk? now that is stupid.... really. She probably has sex with an average say, 4 men per day avg....at even 5 days per week to be conservative which would equal approx 1040 men per year x how many years she has been doing this. If she is doing this all unprotected then she is at extremely high risk...that is logical isnt it? If you don't think so then you should go back to grade school before trying to impress people with your "knowledge".
Sure the original poster should be ok, the duration was short and stats say that one time encounters with an "infected" partner is rare. That is not the issue here.
And to clarify my "stupid question that puts you on the spot and makes you look like a complete ass", you are not so sure of your stats and odds that you confidently state in previous posts. If most women and hookers in the US do not have HIV, and you meet an escort or any woman willing to have unprotected sex, then why not? Because you do not know what you speak of and because you are not confident in what you spew for information.
I am sure I am not the only one who sees it this way....you should quit typing now as you are just digging yourself in deeper with each push on the keyboard.
F*ck you're dumb. I never once said this escort HAD HIV but that the odds you cite are not accurate for her case. Even Dr. H would agree with that I am sure. She has no regard for condom protected intercourse, but yet you say she is still low risk? now that is stupid.... really. She probably has sex with an average say, 4 men per day avg....at even 5 days per week to be conservative which would equal approx 1040 men per year x how many years she has been doing this. If she is doing this all unprotected then she is at extremely high risk...that is logical isnt it? If you don't think so then you should go back to grade school before trying to impress people with your "knowledge".
Sure the original poster should be ok, the duration was short and stats say that one time encounters with an "infected" partner is rare. That is not the issue here.
And to clarify my "stupid question that puts you on the spot and makes you look like a complete ass", you are not so sure of your stats and odds that you confidently state in previous posts. If most women and hookers in the US do not have HIV, and you meet an escort or any woman willing to have unprotected sex, then why not? Because you do not know what you speak of and because you are not confident in what you spew for information.
I am sure I am not the only one who sees it this way....you should quit typing now as you are just digging yourself in deeper with each push on the keyboard.
I'm a PA working on my doctorate, and I've had plenty of experience with HIV studies and research. I already stated that I don't profess to be a doctor or an expert like Dr. HHH, however if you've noticed that there is a similiarity between the advice he gives and the advice that I give, it is only because we are both aware of the same facts and figures with regards to HIV. I'm sorry that my viewpoints don't agree with yours, but then again, unlike you, I don't deal in making stupid statements completely unbased on actual facts.
To the rest of your ill-informed post, no it would not be logical to assume that the escort in question has HIV, because the vast majority of female escorts and women in general in the US do not have that virus.. It is quite far from logical to automatically assume that any one woman has a virus that they are very statistically unlikely to have. But then again, logic seems to have escaped you long ago, so I'm probably talking to a brick wall.
I'm surprised that you would ask the same stupid question twice about whether I would have unprotected sex with this particular escort. But since you are so hell-bent on asking the question, then fine, I'll play. No, I would not have unprotected sex with her, nor with any other unknown woman who I was not in a monogamous relationship with. I'm not sure what you're trying to prove by asking the question, but the fact that consistent condom use is a good idea to avoid other much higher risk factors such as pregnancy and infection with other STD's still doesn't make the extremely low risk for HIV any higher.
Conclusion: The first 4 letters of your screename describe you perfectly.
To the rest of your ill-informed post, no it would not be logical to assume that the escort in question has HIV, because the vast majority of female escorts and women in general in the US do not have that virus.. It is quite far from logical to automatically assume that any one woman has a virus that they are very statistically unlikely to have. But then again, logic seems to have escaped you long ago, so I'm probably talking to a brick wall.
I'm surprised that you would ask the same stupid question twice about whether I would have unprotected sex with this particular escort. But since you are so hell-bent on asking the question, then fine, I'll play. No, I would not have unprotected sex with her, nor with any other unknown woman who I was not in a monogamous relationship with. I'm not sure what you're trying to prove by asking the question, but the fact that consistent condom use is a good idea to avoid other much higher risk factors such as pregnancy and infection with other STD's still doesn't make the extremely low risk for HIV any higher.
Conclusion: The first 4 letters of your screename describe you perfectly.
sorry, ignore my last post.....mike_no was not the original poster to whom I was speaking to.
"all I wanted to have is a second opinion"
You are simply hearing what you want to hear in this one. You said this happened 8 days ago? If I were you I would test at6-8 weeks.....I am not fear mongering with you and I completely understand how you feel comfort reading posts from people who tell you what you want to hear, but nobody in here can offer a second opinion, nobody. Only a Dr. can such as Dr. H.
I usually go with the stats and odds as well, but in your case you were with someone who had no concern about protection and probably never does. Most people in this lifestyle have other risks, such as drugs, or partners of drug users, men who have been incarcerated, etc......it comes with the lifestyle.
You are simply hearing what you want to hear in this one. You said this happened 8 days ago? If I were you I would test at6-8 weeks.....I am not fear mongering with you and I completely understand how you feel comfort reading posts from people who tell you what you want to hear, but nobody in here can offer a second opinion, nobody. Only a Dr. can such as Dr. H.
I usually go with the stats and odds as well, but in your case you were with someone who had no concern about protection and probably never does. Most people in this lifestyle have other risks, such as drugs, or partners of drug users, men who have been incarcerated, etc......it comes with the lifestyle.
" or the regular sex partner of an HIV-infected man."
And would it not be logical to think that she may do just this because she is so cavalier about condom use with strange men? Do you not think then that she is definitely not using condoms with a possible potential regular partner?
I read your response a few times and you are regurgitating what Dr.H says. He is obviously the expert, not you as you profess to specialize in.
I ask again, would you have unprotected sex with this specific escort? If not why not if you are so sure in your statements? Are you scared to answer this question?
I would be far less concerned with a condom break with a hooker, as this to me indicates she is concerned about hiv and other std's, big difference.
Even Dr.H determines his responses based on a mentioned partners sexual history.
Conclusion, you are wrong on this one.
And would it not be logical to think that she may do just this because she is so cavalier about condom use with strange men? Do you not think then that she is definitely not using condoms with a possible potential regular partner?
I read your response a few times and you are regurgitating what Dr.H says. He is obviously the expert, not you as you profess to specialize in.
I ask again, would you have unprotected sex with this specific escort? If not why not if you are so sure in your statements? Are you scared to answer this question?
I would be far less concerned with a condom break with a hooker, as this to me indicates she is concerned about hiv and other std's, big difference.
Even Dr.H determines his responses based on a mentioned partners sexual history.
Conclusion, you are wrong on this one.
i too do that....
but what relieved me was hearing comments from mike, teak and you guys...
that really relieved my tension (even though i will go for a 12+ testing :P)
i think what our problem is,
we use internet a lot. and free time now is used in surfing for "HIV"
we need to convince self, that we are negative, even after this much knowledge shared. instead we think about the 1% chance.
we know that we are on a "low risk" category, but dont accept it. (mine is a single exposure (condom breakage), and i dont know the exact time, i am taking the worst case scenario).
thanks..
but what relieved me was hearing comments from mike, teak and you guys...
that really relieved my tension (even though i will go for a 12+ testing :P)
i think what our problem is,
we use internet a lot. and free time now is used in surfing for "HIV"
we need to convince self, that we are negative, even after this much knowledge shared. instead we think about the 1% chance.
we know that we are on a "low risk" category, but dont accept it. (mine is a single exposure (condom breakage), and i dont know the exact time, i am taking the worst case scenario).
thanks..
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