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What to do

First let me start off by saying i am a 21 year old man from wyoming. Ok so heres the story. 5-6 years ago i was in a very brief relationship with a girl (same age as me). At the time i didn't know but both of her parents passed away from aids. She told me this like a week after we had sex but assured me that she DID NOT HAVE HIV  but did have hepc and that this cold not be spread during sex. She even told me about how her liver is affected and that she is encouraged not to drink alcohol. She could of been lying though which really makes me scared. I didn't even start thinking about my possible risk until i left for college and took a few health classes that scared the sh*t out of me. I know mothers can pass it to their children and this makes me very worried now that i know.  We were both 16 at the time so it has since crossed my mind that maybe she was really scared to tell me back then. She's now 21 but i haven't talked to her in a while. I know shes still alive though i dont know if that really makes a difference or not because i know people live much longer now who have it. She is Caucasian but i am not. We had unprotected sex (dumb and young) 1.5 times at most. I say 1.5 times because the first time was for less than 2 minutes and did not ejaculate inside of her and the second time was for about 30 seconds because the condom came off towards the end. I have been freaking out about this all summer and its come to the point where i check myself for symptoms every 5 minutes in the mirror. Im scared to death and i have nightmares about the situation. I am so worried because my fear of having this is affecting my every day life. I worry and stay in bed all day. I get so nervous some times that i cant eat. I need everyones opinion on the situation. Also, i do have a girlfriend right now and we get together as soon as me and the above mentioned girl stopped talking. We have been together for 4 years and i have never thought there was a chance i was putting her at risk until now with all these thoughts running through my head. I always had unprotected sex with her because i knew she was clean and thought i was as well. I also had unprotected anal sex with(THE GIRL I KNOW IS CLEAN) once and ejaculated inside of her. Now that i think about it though she has donated blood twice since we started dating and always got her donor card and told she can donate again. i know i had a horrible lapse in in judgement and plan on never having unprotected sex again. All this worry has actually made me afraid of having sex period.
Questions:
Would the original girl lie to me about this if she had it and not try to tell me at all now?
Is there a high risk for me?
If i did get it and spread it to my gf  would it of showed up in the blood donations?
How many children born with it live this long in the US?
Is there hope for me?



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thanks i will. anyone else?
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186166 tn?1385259382
TEST TO KNOW YOUR STATUS and all your questions will be answered.
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I know this now. I was stupid and young back then. Now after analyzing my risky behavior i know that i f'd up big time. Thanks for your reply btw and i completely agree with you. I plan on getting tested this week i was just looking for some of you guys point of views. Do you have any input on any of the other questions lizzie? thanks
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186166 tn?1385259382
all this "fear" and you still havent tested?  guess you arent as afraid as you say you are.

if you had unprotected sex with someone whose status you dont know...then you need to test.

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