cant remember

[hellohelp648]

was with a girl she got naked but from what I remember I kept my boxers on,I remember waking in the night and pressing myself against her from behind,dont think anything slipped out or in! But not sure....in fact not sure if I was wearing the boxers at the time.....would I have remembered if we had had sex ?

[Teak]

You can't have sex with your underwear on. No risk...

[hellohelp648]

even if Im now having trouble remebering.....or would I have remembered

also if I received a blowjob and she swallowed would I be at risk from HIV

[Teak]

How could you not remember? If you were that drunk you couldn't get an erection. How could you be at risk of contracting HIV if you were given a blow job and she swallowed? You didn't have a risk period...

[hellohelp648]

didnt have a risk period?

[Teak]

You didn't have a risk. MOVE ON... Take the time to read the posting guidelines of this forum before you get your self a ban.

[hellohelp648]

would it make any diffference if it was a man giving me the blowjob and he had bad gums

[hellohelp648]

or even transexual

[Teak]

No.

[hellohelp648]

so is anything I have commented on an HIV risk ?

[hellohelp648]

well I was on medication for anxiety,so maybe that wouldve stopped me remembering if we did anything or not..Im sure I kep my boxers on but the more I think of it the more I can become unsure and worry when I was pressing up behind that it may have slipped out,if I was wearing them.....what does this sound like to you ?

[siteheld]

When not sure of your own behaviors get tested.I don't understand, but will not doubt , that one can have sex and not remember or even if underwear was on.

[hellohelp648]

so someone can have sex and not remember ,I wasnt that drunk?

[Teak]

If you wasn't that drunk why don't you remember? This isn't making any sense..

[hellohelp648]

so someone would remember having sex ,its couldnt just slip in form behind

[Teak]

Move on. You didn't have a risk.

[hellohelp648]

ok so I should disregard member siteheld saying"one can have sex and not remember or even if underwear was on"

[Teak]

Yes don't pay any attention to that person.

[hellohelp648]

are they not a proper advisor here then.......

do you have a backgroud in HIV advise ?  thanks

[Teak]

Click on my profile.

[lostone08]

hey i was also in your situation i was very very very intoxicated had sex with a csw fell a sleep with her with my boxers on kind of remember having sex with her again without protection but am still unsure if it happened im going to tell you the truth at this point its not about your risk or if it happened or not nothing will satisfy your anxiety and worries except a hiv test i just got tired of thinking about it and went and got tested it wasnt so bad it came out neg at 8weeks which encouraged me to go back at 10 weeks then it really reassured me and i went back at 12 if you cant wait that long get tested asap and you will feel a lot better and have a good indicator of your results good luck

[hellohelp648]

ok but you remembered having sex with her vaguely......she didnt take your boxers off and had sew ith you ,it was the other way round....my point is would you have remembered anything I mean if someon was on top of you having sex you would remember even briefly right ?

[lostone08]

it depends i blacked out after the first time i had sex with her and she didnt have to tyake my boxers off my boxers have an opening where she could of easily accessed it to be honest with you i dont remember and as hard as i try to go back to that night i still cant remember i dont know if my mind is playing tricks on me but its like 50/50 i could have and could not have yes i slept next to her and i had only my boxers on i woke up the next morning and didnt remember anything after i had protected sex with her the first time but i tend to have sex half a sleep with my fiance so it very well could of happened with her if i was sleeping next to her intoxicated and thought she was my fiance so yea i just dont remember but it doesnt even matter just get tested thats the only way you will know your status is what im getting at it doesnt matter if you slept with her or not at this point its already to late if you did you did if you didnt you didnt because your mind will never let you put that to rest until you get tested

[hellohelp648]

Well I was happy to let it go and move on as Teak had said as, like him I believed if someone has sex you would have to remember it and I did not remember anything,however you have cast added doubt to my mind and I would like to know what is your background to be givving advice on this site ? Also can I have Teaks view on this

[lostone08]

sorry i did not mean to give any doubts about your situation everyones is different i am nobody but a worry well like yourself