hiv fear

[worriedhusband12]

Hey guys recently I had been having an affair with an other women we slept together about 7 times I ended the affair 6 months ago as I loved my wife but to my horror the women I had an affair with came back to me and told me she had hiv and she had only found out whend her ex boyfriend who is a heroin addict told her. She said she only found out a few months after we ended affair we never used a condom during any sex which was anal oral and vaginal sex and I am terribly worried I could have infected my wife. I read somewhere thst hiv difficult to catch so might I be ok so worried

[Vance2335]

No

[worriedhusband12]

I was abit drunk when I got test cud this affect the results

[worriedhusband12]

Thank you

[Vance2335]

Yes

[worriedhusband12]

Would the antibody test have puck up all strains of hiv

[Vance2335]

Yes

[worriedhusband12]

So I can move On and forget it

[Vance2335]

You heard wrong.

[worriedhusband12]

I just think I'm to lucky to not have it I heard it can take a year to create antibodies

[Vance2335]

No you don't.

[worriedhusband12]

My test returned negative do I need more testing

[nursegirl6572]

You're correct that it's not EASY to transmit.  You've had repeated unprotected exposures, so the truth is, you had a real risk.  7 times isn't great, but it isn't awful either.  The ONLY way you're going to know is to test, which you need to do ASAP, as you DO have to consider your wife and child.  

Very best to you, let us know how it works out.  Hopefully you will be okay!

[Vance2335]

It is not as easy as other things like a cold. But don't pass the buck saying it is not your fault. Please we all make decisions, good and bad. But we have to live up to the mistakes we make.

[worriedhusband12]

But I read that hiv hard to catch would u agree

[worriedhusband12]

But I read thst hiv hard to catch auf u agree

[Teak]

It's not your wife or child's fault.

[worriedhusband12]

I'm so scared it's not my fault I dint know this women had hiv

[Teak]

The health department will tell your wife.

[worriedhusband12]

Well what can I do if I'm postive theirs no way I could tell my wife so scared

[Teak]

Yes, if you are positive and have infected your wife your wife could possibly infect your child.

[worriedhusband12]

We have baby daughter which my wife breastfeeds if I have hiv and gsve it to my wife could my daughter get it

[Teak]

The only way to know your status is to test. You can test now and your test results will be conclusive.