Well, Teak and Lizzie seem to be the non-MD-experts on the what, why, whatever on when you're in the clear, and I dunno about country guidelines. But from what I've read from them, the rule on this site is 12 weeks/3 mons for conclusive "I can go have sex again" results (yeah, even if you were infected you'd protect your partner by him using a condom, but hey, it could fail even if all precautions like ample lube are used). 6 weeks is something like 99% accurrate, as in, there's practically never been a 6 week negative that went positive at 12 weeks.
Bit still, get the 12 week conclusive and use this time to get your act together
Hey, thanks for your honesty;
You make a great point and I have made a pledge to myself not to be drunk having sex ever again and to only have sex when im in a relationship, these one night stands arent doing me any good!!! As you humorously put it I was the catcher and so i know I am at a higher risk. The paranoia is what has me in the worst place of all ...
The 6 week test (stated amongst this site and the UK and Ireland testing guidelines, as im Irish) is when detectable antibodies would appear and so a negative result is pretty reliable. right?
Wow. Wildcard is you say you don't remember if either was wearing a condom. STOP GETTING SO GODDAM DRUNK THAT YOU CANT REMEMBER THE SEX! I mean, what's the point of having it in the first place.
Anyway, you're pretty much fine regarding the first encounter described- 12 week is the conclusive benchmark, you're 11 week is over 99% acurrate. For the second encounter, you're fine if he was telling the truth about the condom. If he wasn't, you're still a low risk. If you were the "pitcher", your risk is lower than if you were the "catcher", but there would still be a risk.
So- go on with your life since this is low risk, but you'll need a 12 week/3mon test to be conclusively negative, and in the meantime and from now on don't have anal or vaginal sex without protection until your confident you're in a monogamous relationship. Oh, and stop having sex if you're so drunk you can't even determine whether you had a risky encounter the next morning!