What is my Risk of getting HIV?

[SilentOrQuiet]

Hello, on the 4th of July I had sex with an African sex worker. She wasn't very hygienic. She never tested for HIV but she assumes that she's negative since she only has sex with condoms.

Exposure:-
- We kissed but then I realized I had cuts inside my mouth and gums. Likely got it after brushing my teeth. Is it possible to get HIV through this way?
- I fingered her and sucked her breasts and kissed her neck. I don't know if I saw a sore on her neck. How likely is it to get HIV if I kissed a sore?
- After fingering her, she sat on my lap and my penis might have touched her vagina. Maybe my tip and head touched the outside of her vagina but I'm certain there wasn't any penetration. Can I get HIV through this way?
- She performed Oral on me with a condom on.
- We had protected sex for just a minute or two since I was worried and this made me flaccid. I put it in twice and had to pull out within a minute as I was flaccid.
- The condom didn't completely cover my penis since the condom was small. It covered the head of my penis but didn't fully reach down to the base of my penis. But I had no cuts on the lower end of my penis. The lower end of the penis was the part that wasn't fully covered. Can i get HIV this way?
- I then masturbated with the condom on for like 2-3mins. I think by touching the condom, I had the vaginal fluids, and after removing the condom, I accidentally held on to my penis. Can the vaginal fluids transmit from my hand to the penis and cause HIV this way?

I've been sick since the 3rd day of exposure. Today is the 5th week and I'm still sick. I don't know if I'm going through seroconversion now. I either get new symptoms or my existing symptoms get worse.

My symptoms are as follow:-
- Headache
- Extreme Joint pain (knees, elbows, feet, fingers)
- Swollen lymph nodes (behind the ear, neck, groin)
- Sore throat (reddish bumps behind the throat and swollen tonsils)
- Extreme Fatigue
- Stiff Neck
- Chest pain
- Dry Mouth and White tongue
- Mouth Ulcers
- Occasional Nausea and Diarrhea(not very loose)
- Muscles Aches (back, hand, legs etc)
- Abdomen pain
- Sharp lower back Pain
- Lower abdomen and groin pain
- Feet going numb at times
- Burning while urinating and urethral pain(not very frequent)

I don't know what's happening. I don't know if stress is causing these symptoms. But I feel tired and sick. I was healthy before and got sick after my exposure.

Assuming she was HIV+, what would be my risk if you ignore the symptoms?

PS. It's hard to consult a doctor and get tested here in the Middle East If im likely to have an STD. So please do assess my risk and let me know. I would then travel to get tested.

[AnxiousNoMore]

"i dont really no whats causing it. " It's not surprising that you don't know how to diagnose your illness since you don't have any medical training.

See doc if you are sure these pains are not in your imagination. One first step might be to relax for a few hours and if they are gone because if they so then you are good.

[CurfewX]

The only risks for HIV in adults are:
1) Having unprotected anal or vaginal sex, or
2) sharing intravenous needles with IV drug users.

Nothing else you can think of would put you at risk for HIV, including the events you mentioned.  You did not do ANY activity that would put you at risk for HIV, and there is no reason to test for HIV since you were never exposed to HIV.

If you have questions about STDs (not HIV), you can post here: https://www.medhelp.org/forums/STDs---STIs/show/98

I don't know what is causing your symptoms, but they  have nothing to do with HIV.  If your medical symptoms are concerning to you, you should definitely see a doctor.

[SilentOrQuiet]

Thank you for responding. Isn't it possible to get HIV by rubbing my penis on her vagina? What if my tip and head came in contact with her fluids outside?

[AnxiousNoMore]

Questions were already answered. Reread about only.

[SilentOrQuiet]

So I'm at no risk at all? How long does the virus survive outside the body?

[SilentOrQuiet]

I'm just getting really sick and all my symptoms were pointing to HIV. But if it isn't HIV like You've told, i dont really no whats causing it. That's why I'm very stressed and worries.

[CurfewX]

ZERO risk means zero risk.
There's no point in analyzing how long HIV "survives" outside of the body because the simple fact is that NO ONE gets infected with HIV from blood or fluids outside of the body.  Again, see your doctor about your non-HIV related symptoms.

[SilentOrQuiet]

Thank you for responding.

[SilentOrQuiet]

I'm worried if the tip and the head of my penis came in contact with the vaginal fluids that came outside of her vagina. I had fingered her before. She might've had the vaginal fluids outside. And I had rubbed my penis on her vagina after that. This is why I'm worried.

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

Your question has been fully answered, and you have been advised that you had no risk for HIV.  There is nothing further for our members to say about your no-risk encounter.

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