Husband having a hard time.

[ArcturusAP]

Hello everyone,  I'm new to the forum.  I've come here because my wife that I love very much has hep b and I am having a hard time coping.  I love her very much and will stand by her until I die (I understand she will probably live longer than me as I have been told) but I'm having trouble with the depression, the feeling of helplessness, constant worrying, the waiting to see the doctor, the monitoring of her lab results and waiting to find out if she needs treatment, my wanting to excessively control and be involved in her medical plan (I know this is not cool but I'm doing my very best to work on it), I'm so very tired.  I am in constant worry if I do not completely bury my self in work. There is no community in my city I can go and talk to.  I feel like I need someone to talk to about this but I have no options.  I try to be as positive as I can but it seems like a bit of a roller coaster. Can anyone give me any advice on how there spouses deal with this? I know it's probably not normal for me to be this emotional about this, do your spouses react this way too or am I a complete weirdo. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated.

[Airquake]

Keep in mind that this is NOT a death sentence. Some people need the treatment, some don't but all need to monitor that. Once you have all test results, you will know what she needs to do. Just be grateful that it was caught early so you can do something about it, if any.  Most likely, your family life won't change so live your life and stop stressing. For now, the worst case scenario is one pill a day and blood test and ultrasound every 6 months, that's all!!! Relax, don't stress and take some time off.

[varsa]

Don't worry to much. Lots of people like 10 percent in pakistan and 4 percent in lindia have chronic Hbv it does not mean all will die.educate yourself and consult with good hepatologist.take care of her.

[SphereAj]

Hi Sirius
I don't know if this will help. I am writing this as a patient myself. I discovered I have hepB in February this year and it was shocking, I was Already suffering from anxiety due to stress for 1 year. This diagnosis pushed me deeper into the despair. Got good support from this forum.

I was Already working ON ACCEPTANCE   to reduce my anxiety. Now I also do mindfulness meditation,  this has helped me to accept the situation and do my best to deal with it. I am on medication now for hepB.

You also need to calm down and accept the situation and do your best. It's not easy but,  definitely doable. Stressing out will not help you and your wife.

Google mindfulness meditation, and start doing it daily. Approach with open mind.

It's great that you are not running away from her that's admirable. Do not worry,  this condition can be controlled and maybe cure will come sooner.

In despair we feel lost,  but inviting little calmness day by day will help you to handle the situation efficiently.

[ArcturusAP]

Thank you for all of the kind useful comments.  I'm not sure how to respond at this moment, but please know that I do appreciate all of the responses, I will try meditating the anxiety away.  I think my problem is letting go of control, I hope the meditation can help this. I will I can fix all illness.