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What do you think (can he catch it) hep Ç
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Let me sum up the situation for you all....
I have a friend that I've known for 16 years and he is all about being with me. I am not ready for a relationship, but he is very very important to me. I want to keep him safe from EVERYTHING including my hepatitis c. I have pretty much came to the conclusion that I will be alone now that I have hep c but he still wants to be with me relationship and sexual. I've done some research on it and the odds seem to be really low on a partner getting it but the research does talk back. Expescially the way you all (compassionate people have treated me) do. I have sexual needs and I figured I'd just take care of myself, I DONT want to give it to him.
He is a very close and good friend of mine so and even if I weren't close to him o would never ever want to spread this virus to anyone. It just makes this a hard thing to deal with even more so than what it is.
Ppl have told me that I can move on with a relationship that has love making involved, I just really don't know what to do. I am a very affectionate woman on top of that I'm very much in touch with my sexual side. I just feel that I am being selfish for even considering making love/have sex with someone again.
I am very cautious with everything I do I carry band aid bandages medical tape and rags to make sure if I get cut or bleed that I can clean it up immediately and do it myself so that no one touches my blood. I keep my toothbrush separate from anyone else with a case on it. My razors our place of high away from my son and I take them out of the bathroom when I have company. That is this an example of what I do to prevent anyone catching my virus.
I really don't have a feel or which way to get with any of this, maybe you all could help me with my decision. What do I do?
P. S. I did tell him to go on the internet do some research and think about it, it has been 7 months since then... He's still all about. Remember we are very close with or without it so that makes it hard either way!¡¡¡
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Let me sum up the situation for you all....
I have a friend that I've known for 16 years and he is all about being with me. I am not ready for a relationship, but he is very very important to me. I want to keep him safe from EVERYTHING including my hepatitis c. I have pretty much came to the conclusion that I will be alone now that I have hep c but he still wants to be with me relationship and sexual. I've done some research on it and the odds seem to be really low on a partner getting it but the research does talk back. Expescially the way you all (compassionate people have treated me) do. I have sexual needs and I figured I'd just take care of myself, I DONT want to give it to him.
He is a very close and good friend of mine so and even if I weren't close to him o would never ever want to spread this virus to anyone. It just makes this a hard thing to deal with even more so than what it is.
Ppl have told me that I can move on with a relationship that has love making involved, I just really don't know what to do. I am a very affectionate woman on top of that I'm very much in touch with my sexual side. I just feel that I am being selfish for even considering making love/have sex with someone again.
I am very cautious with everything I do I carry band aid bandages medical tape and rags to make sure if I get cut or bleed that I can clean it up immediately and do it myself so that no one touches my blood. I keep my toothbrush separate from anyone else with a case on it. My razors our place of high away from my son and I take them out of the bathroom when I have company. That is this an example of what I do to prevent anyone catching my virus.
I really don't have a feel or which way to get with any of this, maybe you all could help me with my decision. What do I do?
P. S. I did tell him to go on the internet do some research and think about it, it has been 7 months since then... He's still all about. Remember we are very close with or without it so that makes it hard either way!¡¡¡
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I got my blood Work done about a mth ago the jerks are not going to see me foe 3 more mths!!:(
Thank you all so much! You have very much made me feel like a person! You all are so compassionate and genuinely Consistent!
We had a sexual something years ago but we were not in the same place in our lives. I want to work on me as a person on top of getting rid of this HCV.
Him and his boys mean so much to me. To the friend that spoke of it messing up our friendship I don't know and I have mentioned that to him with a possible chance of that happening we both seem to be okay with a friendship carrying on but no 1 knows what the future will bring. I tell him a warn him about hus heart and that I DONT want a relationship, and that he needs to keep his heart at a distance from me but I need my friend I think he does too. He has a one track mind he sees something he wants and he is in full throthel to get it. (AND I DONT MEAN SEX) I constantly tell him where I stand with this. I know he hears me but he's not listening he thinks as long as he holds on I wont let go. I CANT say where I will be! I don't know. Like I have told him I love him I'm not in love with him! He still stuck on the one track mind! I want the best for him and in a previous relationship he was when I went to protect him he took it as if I were jealous or something stupid like that. Idk I just want him to be Haappy! And not hurt expescially by me. We talk everyday all day on thr phone, like I said I love him we have been together but I'm not in love! Hell I just got out of a torturing relationship where I was emotionally mentally abuse neglected and tortured! Matter of fact he is still torturing me over the phone! Point being he wants to protect me keep me from him even if he can't have me(my friend I've been talking about being with/having fun with. Lol like I said I'm very very very much in touch with my sexual side and I hate flying solo! There's no comparison to affection and a compassionate sexual experience!
We had a sexual something years ago but we were not in the same place in our lives. I want to work on me as a person on top of getting rid of this HCV.
Him and his boys mean so much to me. To the friend that spoke of it messing up our friendship I don't know and I have mentioned that to him with a possible chance of that happening we both seem to be okay with a friendship carrying on but no 1 knows what the future will bring. I tell him a warn him about hus heart and that I DONT want a relationship, and that he needs to keep his heart at a distance from me but I need my friend I think he does too. He has a one track mind he sees something he wants and he is in full throthel to get it. (AND I DONT MEAN SEX) I constantly tell him where I stand with this. I know he hears me but he's not listening he thinks as long as he holds on I wont let go. I CANT say where I will be! I don't know. Like I have told him I love him I'm not in love with him! He still stuck on the one track mind! I want the best for him and in a previous relationship he was when I went to protect him he took it as if I were jealous or something stupid like that. Idk I just want him to be Haappy! And not hurt expescially by me. We talk everyday all day on thr phone, like I said I love him we have been together but I'm not in love! Hell I just got out of a torturing relationship where I was emotionally mentally abuse neglected and tortured! Matter of fact he is still torturing me over the phone! Point being he wants to protect me keep me from him even if he can't have me(my friend I've been talking about being with/having fun with. Lol like I said I'm very very very much in touch with my sexual side and I hate flying solo! There's no comparison to affection and a compassionate sexual experience!
Oh Geez....I never even thought about "giving it" to someone, via sexual contact, back when I had a detectable viral load.
Of course, now that my viral load went undetectable, I am now hiding my toothpaste from my husband, (who still has the Hep C virus)and....yeah, worry about having sex with him, but only because I am talking all this treatment medicine, so my skin is dry, and I worry about my immune system, etc
You sound like a good canidate, for the new meds out here, that make cure rates alot higher. My advise would be to get a biopsy. If your liver is stage 2, or worse, wait a little longer, until your babies are older, and then go get treated. If your liver is still healthy (stage 1), then you could wait for the meds to be improved, which they are working on. But you have to stop treating yourself as "infected". There is such a low chance of a female giving it to a male....if you are worried, refrain from sex when on your period. And dont have sex, if you have a sore, such as Herpes.
As long as the vagina is healthy and lubricated, and the man has no sores, I cant see there being "blood to blood" contact....not with gentle love-making. I suppose if you were worried, you could use condoms, but I never did.
This guy sounds really special, maybe you could start out being physical, via massages. I always preferred the pleasure and affection I recieved, from giving and recieving massage, to just the old "in and out". Both of you can have a happy and safe ending, just with touching, if that makes you feel the most comfortable.
Of course, now that my viral load went undetectable, I am now hiding my toothpaste from my husband, (who still has the Hep C virus)and....yeah, worry about having sex with him, but only because I am talking all this treatment medicine, so my skin is dry, and I worry about my immune system, etc
You sound like a good canidate, for the new meds out here, that make cure rates alot higher. My advise would be to get a biopsy. If your liver is stage 2, or worse, wait a little longer, until your babies are older, and then go get treated. If your liver is still healthy (stage 1), then you could wait for the meds to be improved, which they are working on. But you have to stop treating yourself as "infected". There is such a low chance of a female giving it to a male....if you are worried, refrain from sex when on your period. And dont have sex, if you have a sore, such as Herpes.
As long as the vagina is healthy and lubricated, and the man has no sores, I cant see there being "blood to blood" contact....not with gentle love-making. I suppose if you were worried, you could use condoms, but I never did.
This guy sounds really special, maybe you could start out being physical, via massages. I always preferred the pleasure and affection I recieved, from giving and recieving massage, to just the old "in and out". Both of you can have a happy and safe ending, just with touching, if that makes you feel the most comfortable.
The risk of getting hep C from monogamous sex is practically nil.
You say you don't know what to do? What you need to do is educate yourself.
Read up on the virus.
Try this web site:
www.hepcadvocate.org
You say you don't know what to do? What you need to do is educate yourself.
Read up on the virus.
Try this web site:
www.hepcadvocate.org
i have had hep c for longer than i've been with my husband. (unknowingly of course). i've had 2 boys and am totally in love with my husband. we are intimate and he does not have hep c nor do my boys. if you're worried, just use a condom. take care. belle
Use a condom and read this.
http://www.nature.com/ajg/journal/v99/n5/full/ajg2004164a.html
http://www.nature.com/ajg/journal/v99/n5/full/ajg2004164a.html
My wife and I have been together for 10 years and 2 treatments. She has now caught Hep c, the chance is very slim. We now have a 3 year old and she also is hep free. I just started triple therapy so well get this thing yet. I do try to keep razors, toothbrushes, and tweezers fingure nail clippers away. We lead a great life with some precautions throughn in.
"I have a friend that I've known for 16 years and he is all about being with me. I am not ready for a relationship, but he is very very important to me."
First, you should decide if you want to have a sexual relationship with your friend. I get that he is into you, but are you into him? Only you can answer that. As I am sure you know turning a friendship into a sexual relationship is many times a way one process. You may no longer be friends but something else, but that is a risk that is involved when we turn a friendship into a sexual relationship. You should really think about what you want. It seem clear what he wants.
As far as sex and hepatitis C...You are correct that the odds of transmitting the virus is very low. Remember hepatitis C is a blood borne disease, so if there is no blood involved in your sexual practices it is highly unlikely that the virus will be transmitted. There have been couples that have been together for decades when one partner was infected and the other not, so it is not an easily transmitted virus unlike many other bacteria and viruses which are STDs.
Of course since you are both single you should be practicing safe sex. You don't know his sexual history or what he could be infected with so it is always smart to protect yourself.
Good luck.
Hector
First, you should decide if you want to have a sexual relationship with your friend. I get that he is into you, but are you into him? Only you can answer that. As I am sure you know turning a friendship into a sexual relationship is many times a way one process. You may no longer be friends but something else, but that is a risk that is involved when we turn a friendship into a sexual relationship. You should really think about what you want. It seem clear what he wants.
As far as sex and hepatitis C...You are correct that the odds of transmitting the virus is very low. Remember hepatitis C is a blood borne disease, so if there is no blood involved in your sexual practices it is highly unlikely that the virus will be transmitted. There have been couples that have been together for decades when one partner was infected and the other not, so it is not an easily transmitted virus unlike many other bacteria and viruses which are STDs.
Of course since you are both single you should be practicing safe sex. You don't know his sexual history or what he could be infected with so it is always smart to protect yourself.
Good luck.
Hector
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How about treat with the new drugs and cure yourself of the HCV?
No one should have to go through life like you are. I commend you for taking extra precautions to prevent spreading the virus but you are kind of obsessive with it.
I think you should tell this "friend" about your HCV and then if he still wants to be with you then buy some condoms and get down to business !!!
Best of luck
How about treat with the new drugs and cure yourself of the HCV?
No one should have to go through life like you are. I commend you for taking extra precautions to prevent spreading the virus but you are kind of obsessive with it.
I think you should tell this "friend" about your HCV and then if he still wants to be with you then buy some condoms and get down to business !!!
Best of luck
This is sad in a way. You deserve to have a higher quality of life and there is no reason to isolate yourself. I think it is a good idea your friend does a little of his own research just to gain an understanding of HCV and evaluate the risks himself. That way you have the peace of mind knowing he made a choice with full knowledge of the facts.
As long as you practice safety you should be fine. I say Go For It!!
**Not to be nosy but have you been tested to determine your Genotype & viral load? Have you ever had a liver biopsy?
As long as you practice safety you should be fine. I say Go For It!!
**Not to be nosy but have you been tested to determine your Genotype & viral load? Have you ever had a liver biopsy?
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