Thanks to all who commented. I truly appreciate your time, energy, and genuine concern.
I don't have much of an update since my husband never went and got tested. Christmas came, we traveled, and well life just went back to normal.
Neither one of us really care at this point. We figure we've been rocking this for 15 years what difference does it make HSV or not. Perhaps the next time one of us is at the doctor we'll ask them to throw in an HSV IgG test. In which case I will definitely update this thread. I am due for an annual exam in a few months so maybe I'll ask then.
Thanks again!
WOW! I'm sorry to hear this; this must be really tough. Having the support of your husband is very important, and it's good that he's taking it positively.
This question has resulted in so many answers, information and clarification about herpes.
Did your husband ever do those tests? Did you find any answers, or closure?
More questions. I've read that cold sores can be caught by sharing utensils, cups, etc. If this is true, and since cold sores are caused by the same virus as genital herpes, wouldn't one be able to contract genital herpes from a toilet seat or towel? I know these questions sound silly but I am trying to figure this all out. Cold sore to utensil to someone else's mouth is no different than genital sore to toilet (or towel) to someone else's buttocks. Right?
Again, I'm really sorry if this sounds silly, I'm trying to process all the info I'm finding online and everything I've been reading says cold sores are caught from sharing utensils and even face towels. Which makes me nervous.
Well, I've tested negative for IgG and IgM. So I guess since my doc dropped the ball and didn't get a swab I have to wait several months and try IgG again. In the meantime I'll send my husband off for IgG. Whatever he has I've got so that might help shed some light on all of this.
Update: I saw the doctor today and she said it is definitely herpes just by looking at it. She drew labs for IGG and IGM. I should have the results in a few days.
She said she sees this in her clinic all the time. Long term monogamous couple comes in shocked they have HSV. She said she's always the one who is shocked because she can't believe how many people don't know this could happen.
So now I wait. I asked if my husband should get tested and she said it doesn't matter since he probably already has it too, and if he doesn't he probably will eventually anyway. But if he wants to be tested he could.
It is also possible if this is hsv1 that your husband can test negative with an igg bloodtest. The igg blood test for hsv1 has been shown in studies to miss up to 30% of infections.
Herpes is not an extremely contagious virus. Many couples go an entire liferime and never spread it. It is very possible that he has hsv and had no idea. Very common
My advice is, if you trust and believe in him then put the thought of infidelity on the back burner for now. Go get swabbed asap!! And make sure they do a pcr with type specific testing. It helps to know which hsv it is if it comes back positive. I wish you luck.
It definitely looks like herpes. Two clusters of blisters, bilaterally in the genital area.
I can't imagine going to instacare for this. I trust my doctor and feel safe with her.
Do not jump to any conclusions. We need to methodically work through this and sort this out.
1. You need to get a swab test immediately. I would not wait until Monday. If you can, you should go to an urgent care center that can provide you with a swab test. Make sure the doctor types the swab.
2. Your husband should get an IgG type-specific blood test done right now. If he is positive, he may have a latent infection and has not known about it. He may just be asymptomatic.
3. If you are positive for hsv1 on that swab test, then it is possible you acquired it through oral sex due to your husband having it and being asymptomatic for hsv1, meaning he never gets symptoms. Many (most?) people infected with hsv1 do not know they are and are surprised by blood tests that indicate they have antibodies to hsv1. Also, the IgG blood test for hsv1 antibodies misses at least 10 percent and maybe as much as 30 percent of infections. So, if your swab test is positive for hsv1, your husband could still be infected, not know it, and still get a negative blood test. Odds are low for this, but it is possible.
4. There is also a chance that this is not even herpes, and an infection of a completely different type. What does the infected area look like?