Thank you so much. I just hope I really don't have it.
Scrubbing and washing your vagina too much can cause just as many problems as not washing it at all. At this point just wash it once daily in the shower as you normally would.
You need to follow up on all of this. You know you possibly once had a sexual partner with genital herpes ( just his fingering you wasn't a risk ). You should err on the side of caution and see what your own herpes status is just in case when you were intimate with him, he was infected and never knew it.
grace