sore throats are not signs of genital herpes. sounds like perhaps you've caught an upper respiratory infection as is very common this time of the year.
that is a possility but im also having chills and a quesey stomach but still no lesions i feel almost flulike with chills and sore throat
you have a history of ongoing issues. no reason to think this is herpes causing your current symptoms. follow up properly with your provider.
we recommend protected oral sex because it's about as safe as it gets. If you make sure to only have protected oral, it'll save you a lot of worrying!
grace