I feel like the worst human being on the planet.
I had an encounter roughly 3 months ago with someone I didn't know. outside of my marriage
she performed brief oral on me and I on her, again briefly
there was no penetration, but a bit of rubbing on her clit with my penis.
2 days later, I started getting a stinging/burning sensation on the tip of my penis that lasted for about a week.
I asked her if she was tested recently and she stated she was last November via pap smear and all showed up normal and she did not have sex of any kind since then.
after her telling me that, the pain went away.
fast forward 3 months later.
my wife started experiencing incredible pain in her sciatic nerve that traveled down to her knee/ankle at times
I started researching possible causes, outside of just standard sciatica and there it was.....HERPES
I was feeling fine up until that point. then I noticed the burning/stinging sensation occurring all over again. sometimes it was just the tip, some times it the feeling was in the urethra/bladder.
the cause of my wife's sciatica issue was due to a slipped disc in her spine. she's much better now, but I can't seem to get my symptoms to go away for good.
this has gone on for about a week and a half now.
there are no visible sores, discharge, fever, etc. in this case
my wife and I have had sex since that encounter and she is not experiencing any symptoms of anything.
I'm normaly not an anxious person, but my anxiety is through the roof on this.
I have not gotten tested for anything as I don't really fit the mold for the STIs out there, at least that i'm aware of.
I've also noticed the sensations come and go depending on if i'm doing something or not. if i'm occupied with something, there is no pain/burn sensations anywhere. but if I start to think about how I may have just completely destroyed my life and my family over something so stupid, it starts to flare up.
it seems to be more irritation when sitting as opposed to walking/standing.
so here's my question.
If it was hsv, does the pain come and go while having an outbreak?
exactly how painful is hsv if there was an outbreak?
if it's been 12 weeks roughly with no sores, is herpes ruled out?
I personally believe it to be more anxiety as I know anxiety/stress/guilt can cause all of these symptoms and that not everything is an STD.
I'm losing my mind and losing my grip on reality. I can't eat, sleep, can barely function at my job and need some help here.
thank you for reading