How to discuss HSV2 with a potential partner...

[hellomynameis_]

I was diagnosed with HSV2 about two months ago and am still in the process of learning to accept it and remain positive. When I first found out, the advice and support I received here helped me quite a bit, but I have another question. I have been talking to a guy I dated a few years ago and things seem to be going well (potentially in the direction of us getting back together). He lives in a different state and we've been planning a trip for me to go visit in a few months, but I haven't told him that I have herpes yet. I think it would be best to discuss it before I get there in order to save us both time and money if the conversation ends up going badly, but he'll be the first person I've talked to about it and I would really appreciate some direction as far as how I should approach it and what kind of information to give him regarding transmission rates. I take an antiviral medication every day and have heard that that in combination with using other forms of protection makes it much more difficult to pass on, but the last thing I want is to give it to anyone else and would like to know just how much of a risk he'd be taking. Thank you!

[concernedandconfused1]

I know it helps to have any kind of feedback from anyone, because a lot of live with this "secret" whether we have it or think we have it.

But I think that especially because of the fact that you had dated before helps.

Through the right precautions I would think you would really limit the chances of passing it to him.  Understanding your body and knowing when an outbreak is going to occur will be a big help.  I suggest maybe keeping a timeline?

I think if he knows more about it and how you can control it, it will definitely help you in your situation.

I hope the best for you, good luck!

[hellomynameis_]

Oh, and I forgot to mention (although I'm not sure if it makes a difference) that I've only had one pretty mild outbreak.