While herpes can be little more than an inconvenience for most it can be serious for those with other health issues. I have Cystic Fibrosis and got oral HSV1 from kissing a guy who never disclosed his status. It has ruined my life as I have had severe & continuous outbreaks that spread from my lips to tongue, down oesophagus to stomach, cheeks, chin and now infected my eye (corneal ulcer) and fingers. I've been so ill I have spent time in hospital receiving IV infusions of HSV1 antibodies & lost my job. I wish I had been given the choice to avoid this disaster.
@joshthomas
My policy is always be honest with people. In the long run, it pays more than dishonesty. You'd be surprised how people react positively to honesty. Anyway, sorry to hear about your friend and his (ex) wife. Honestly, she probably left him because of the one night stand betrayal more than anything else and it's understandable.
One of my friend got HSV-2 from one-night-stand, and he passed it to his wife unknowingly. Finally his wife divorced him because of this. Sad story.
Always tell people you are with, and let them make their own decision.
Take care.
To answer your questions. We aren't the moral police so what you choose to tell someone is your own choice. Though in all honesty full disclsoure would be nice. Wouldn't you want to know if they had HSV-2 and you only had HSV-1? Or what if they had some other STD? One night stands while are low risk the fact is there is a risk. So in all honesty it is your choice.
Precuations to take with HSV (you don't say which type you have genitally though I am assuming here HSV-1 genital but to error I will give you info for both) is to avoid sexual contact anytime you have anything going on genitally. Once that has cleared up you can safely resume your sexual encounters. Using a condom doesn't offer 100% protection as it is about 30%.
Now because you asked what would "I" do I would tell you. Every partner I had would know about my genital status. A one night stand isn't worth infection or me living with the guilt that I could have transmitted HSV to an unknowing partner. It isn't fair to them. You said you wouldn't lie. That infers you would need to be asked to disclose that you have an STD or anything like that.
I wouldn't make someone ask me if I had an STD. I would ask them but if you are willing to withhold the truth or give the person the option of opting out then in my eyes you are lying to me. Yes HSV is a skin condition and its not that big of a deal. But some people don't want that burden if they can avoid it. Do people with HSV-1 orally tell people? Sure I am sure they do. But without an active cold sore the risk is low for transmission. But what takes place in the transmission is what makes that risk a little lower.
yes,but probably lats of people out there ho do that.
Don't get me wrong, I would never lie about such a thing. Come on that would be a totally un-cool thing to do.
i had that one night stand thing,i wish that i never,i been lied now i got to carry this bag all my life.i wish i had choice.i will never do that to anyone.Not a nice thing to do,its like ruin someones life for one hour sex,its compliantly wrong.in my situation person lied to me.
YIKES! My thought on this is that the person who passed this onto me, didnt tell me he had it (possibly didnt know). I will not become intimate with anyone, and what difference a one night stand versus someone that I know well., without disclosing.
Because I know I carry this virus, I feel a moral responsibility to disclose and let my partner make the choice of risking acquiring the virus or declining. I wish I had the option, I myself would have opted out (of the one night stand).