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Positive for HSV2..so stressed/ depressed
Hello!
I'm new here and I'm trying to piece everything together, gain knowledge and hold my **** together because all I wanna so is cry and scream.
I haven't always been smart about protecting myself but I have always gone to the Dr's for a full STD work up every 6 months. I just found out that Herpes is not part of the test when you ask to text for "all" STDs. That's really unfortunate... Recently I have had unprotected sex with my roommate.. We both said "I'm clean". I just had my full STD testing done the beginning of Nov 2014. So in saying that to him "i was clean as i was jut teated" I was wrong!
So about 2 1/2 wks after our first encounter... And fun between a few times I started to feel pain/ burning when urinating... After a few days I had a high fever for 3 days and felt like a yeast infection was coming on. I went to the clinic and the Dr said it looks like herpes!! Also had an ulcer on my thumb where the cuticle was torn. I was devastated and wanted to believe she was wrong .. So I took Valtrex for 10 days. Was good by day 5. So now a week after the Valtrex was done I start to feel uncomfortable and feel like there blisters were back... I get a call
From the dr and the swab is positive for HSV2.
So I'm thinking ... Did I get it from my roommate? Did he or does he know he had it at one time? Could it dormant but obviously contagious? I have chronic yeast infections so does that make me more susceptible to catch stuff?
I thought the OB was over but it's back .. So I obv need to be back on meds. I made an appointment with my family Dr. I need to figure out next steps and have so many many questions...
I just wanna curl up in bed and cry ... Feel like my sex life is over
I'm new here and I'm trying to piece everything together, gain knowledge and hold my **** together because all I wanna so is cry and scream.
I haven't always been smart about protecting myself but I have always gone to the Dr's for a full STD work up every 6 months. I just found out that Herpes is not part of the test when you ask to text for "all" STDs. That's really unfortunate... Recently I have had unprotected sex with my roommate.. We both said "I'm clean". I just had my full STD testing done the beginning of Nov 2014. So in saying that to him "i was clean as i was jut teated" I was wrong!
So about 2 1/2 wks after our first encounter... And fun between a few times I started to feel pain/ burning when urinating... After a few days I had a high fever for 3 days and felt like a yeast infection was coming on. I went to the clinic and the Dr said it looks like herpes!! Also had an ulcer on my thumb where the cuticle was torn. I was devastated and wanted to believe she was wrong .. So I took Valtrex for 10 days. Was good by day 5. So now a week after the Valtrex was done I start to feel uncomfortable and feel like there blisters were back... I get a call
From the dr and the swab is positive for HSV2.
So I'm thinking ... Did I get it from my roommate? Did he or does he know he had it at one time? Could it dormant but obviously contagious? I have chronic yeast infections so does that make me more susceptible to catch stuff?
I thought the OB was over but it's back .. So I obv need to be back on meds. I made an appointment with my family Dr. I need to figure out next steps and have so many many questions...
I just wanna curl up in bed and cry ... Feel like my sex life is over
Millions of people in the United States alone have HSV2 and don't know it because they have no symptoms or incredibly mild symptoms.
Most people don't have noticeable symptoms. A few people do experience uncomfortable or painful symptoms, and those people usually find that the symptoms subside after 12-24 months. And fewer still have uncomfortable symptoms for longer than that--and it's these people who we usually associate with the word "herpes" because it can be unpleasant for them. AS I said, they are the minority and most people with HSV2 don't know it.
Your room-mate could easily be one of the millions who don't know it. While you happen to be one of the people who experiences more uncomfortable primary symptoms
There are so many people with HSV that it may never be an issue as far as your love life. Movie stars, doctors, lawyers, airline pilots--they can have HSV2 just as easily. Unfortunately, the common virus has been stigmatized to an incredible degree of hysteria in our society. Most of it it completely unfounded.
In an ideal world, none of would ever get a virus of any kind. We don't live in that world. and we are exposed to viruses all the time. Those viruses don't make us cry ourselves to sleep at night. But for myriad reasons, HSV2 makes us feel emotionally horrible.
Some time and talking to other people who understand the situation will make you feel immensely better. Sooner than later, you'll meet someone else who is in the same position or doesn't care or worry about it. Most couples where one person carries HSV2 conclude it's not worth worrying about condoms. That's just a fact too. It's a personal decision for everyone, and many people, upon learning what it really means, decide it's not something to be deathly afraid of.
Take the time to breathe and relax. Go easy on yourself. You're not ruined. You're not a bad person.
The sexiest person in the world might have HSV2 too, whether they know it or not, and that person might be very thrilled to meet you.
Most people don't have noticeable symptoms. A few people do experience uncomfortable or painful symptoms, and those people usually find that the symptoms subside after 12-24 months. And fewer still have uncomfortable symptoms for longer than that--and it's these people who we usually associate with the word "herpes" because it can be unpleasant for them. AS I said, they are the minority and most people with HSV2 don't know it.
Your room-mate could easily be one of the millions who don't know it. While you happen to be one of the people who experiences more uncomfortable primary symptoms
There are so many people with HSV that it may never be an issue as far as your love life. Movie stars, doctors, lawyers, airline pilots--they can have HSV2 just as easily. Unfortunately, the common virus has been stigmatized to an incredible degree of hysteria in our society. Most of it it completely unfounded.
In an ideal world, none of would ever get a virus of any kind. We don't live in that world. and we are exposed to viruses all the time. Those viruses don't make us cry ourselves to sleep at night. But for myriad reasons, HSV2 makes us feel emotionally horrible.
Some time and talking to other people who understand the situation will make you feel immensely better. Sooner than later, you'll meet someone else who is in the same position or doesn't care or worry about it. Most couples where one person carries HSV2 conclude it's not worth worrying about condoms. That's just a fact too. It's a personal decision for everyone, and many people, upon learning what it really means, decide it's not something to be deathly afraid of.
Take the time to breathe and relax. Go easy on yourself. You're not ruined. You're not a bad person.
The sexiest person in the world might have HSV2 too, whether they know it or not, and that person might be very thrilled to meet you.
The combination of the symptoms and positive swab leave little doubt as to a genital HSV infection.
There is also little doubt that your current roommate partner is the source of the HSV.
There may still be an open question as to whether this is HSV2 or HSV1. There does seem to be enough time passed for the swab to be correctly typed by culture, but it is worth checking whether it was typed explicitly for HSV1 and HSV2. If it was PCR test applied to the swab then the type is confirmed.
A genital HSV1 infection can occur if the partner has an oral cold sore infection and gives oral sex.
It is possible that your partner did not know of a genital HSV2 infection (if they have one), especially if they have an oral HSV1 infection. It is also possible that he does know, or perhaps should know but ignores symptoms. The virus is infectious at rare times even when no symptoms are present.
However there is no reason to believe that your sex life is over. Many people are not rejected in disclosing a genital HSV status, particularly if precautions are taken such as condoms and antivirals.
There is also little doubt that your current roommate partner is the source of the HSV.
There may still be an open question as to whether this is HSV2 or HSV1. There does seem to be enough time passed for the swab to be correctly typed by culture, but it is worth checking whether it was typed explicitly for HSV1 and HSV2. If it was PCR test applied to the swab then the type is confirmed.
A genital HSV1 infection can occur if the partner has an oral cold sore infection and gives oral sex.
It is possible that your partner did not know of a genital HSV2 infection (if they have one), especially if they have an oral HSV1 infection. It is also possible that he does know, or perhaps should know but ignores symptoms. The virus is infectious at rare times even when no symptoms are present.
However there is no reason to believe that your sex life is over. Many people are not rejected in disclosing a genital HSV status, particularly if precautions are taken such as condoms and antivirals.
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