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What are the chances I got herpes?
I made out with a girl on Saturday night (April 9) AND she gave me oral sex. LATER, I realized she had a cold core on the edge of her lip...not actually ON the lip, but RIGHT next to it. I am pretty sure it was in the weeping stage because the next morning (Sunday), it had scabbed over (yellow in color).
I had washed off my penis in the bath tub within minutes after ejaculating...HOT water and soap. I normally do this and did not realize she had a cold sore at this point. I pointed it out to her the next morning (Sunday) and she denied it was a cold sore. She peeled off the yellow scab (one piece) and there was pink skin underneath. NO fluid was present...it was dry and remained dry. She does admit to getting cold sores and says she has been getting them since she was a child...she is now 28.
My concerns...
Given that the cold sore was off her lips, this should reduce the chances of acquiring herpes?
Given I washed off my penis with hot water and soap, would this reduce the chances? I also urinated after as well.
I had some serious diarrhea within 36 hours, is this a possible symptom of an infection? Would it occur so rapidly?
No outbreaks yet...if I don't get an outbreak within 12 days, this should be a SMALL relief, correct?
I am planning on getting the IgM test after 2 weeks to check for early antibodies. I have never been diagnosed with any type of herpes (have been checked recently too).
I did not notice any open cuts on my penis.
Obviously, I am at a high risk. I could not be more upset with myself. I am worried of passing this on to someone else. Should I refrain from any sexual activity for at least 2 weeks?
Please let me know your thoughts on this situation and statistics (in percentages) of acquiring herpes. Thank you.
I had washed off my penis in the bath tub within minutes after ejaculating...HOT water and soap. I normally do this and did not realize she had a cold sore at this point. I pointed it out to her the next morning (Sunday) and she denied it was a cold sore. She peeled off the yellow scab (one piece) and there was pink skin underneath. NO fluid was present...it was dry and remained dry. She does admit to getting cold sores and says she has been getting them since she was a child...she is now 28.
My concerns...
Given that the cold sore was off her lips, this should reduce the chances of acquiring herpes?
Given I washed off my penis with hot water and soap, would this reduce the chances? I also urinated after as well.
I had some serious diarrhea within 36 hours, is this a possible symptom of an infection? Would it occur so rapidly?
No outbreaks yet...if I don't get an outbreak within 12 days, this should be a SMALL relief, correct?
I am planning on getting the IgM test after 2 weeks to check for early antibodies. I have never been diagnosed with any type of herpes (have been checked recently too).
I did not notice any open cuts on my penis.
Obviously, I am at a high risk. I could not be more upset with myself. I am worried of passing this on to someone else. Should I refrain from any sexual activity for at least 2 weeks?
Please let me know your thoughts on this situation and statistics (in percentages) of acquiring herpes. Thank you.
you poke your groin enough, it'll start to get tender.
really, you are spending far too much time checking out your genital area. time for a new hobby. If you get herpes lesions, you won't miss them, trust me!
grace
really, you are spending far too much time checking out your genital area. time for a new hobby. If you get herpes lesions, you won't miss them, trust me!
grace
I have just started feeling the lymph nodes in my groin. The ones at the corners of my pubic area (closer towards the center of my body) and both are a little tender when I apply firm pressure...more significant on my left side.
The one on the left side seems to be a bit firm (smaller than the size of a pea). However, I do NOT have any signs of sores.
The other lymph nodes in the area seem to be fine and NO tenderness. Would all lymph nodes in the area be affected if this was a symptom or just these specific ones (same location on both sides)?
This started about 2 1/2 days after exposure and now it is 4 1/2 days after exposure and still no signs of sores. The tenderness has reduced as well.
Should I be very concerned about the lymph node symptoms?
The one on the left side seems to be a bit firm (smaller than the size of a pea). However, I do NOT have any signs of sores.
The other lymph nodes in the area seem to be fine and NO tenderness. Would all lymph nodes in the area be affected if this was a symptom or just these specific ones (same location on both sides)?
This started about 2 1/2 days after exposure and now it is 4 1/2 days after exposure and still no signs of sores. The tenderness has reduced as well.
Should I be very concerned about the lymph node symptoms?
If I don't get an outbreak within 10 days, do you believe the chances of being safe increase a lot?
hard for us to know what it was. you need to cover your own bases at this point.
I did some more research...could it be angular cheilitis? It was on the CORNER of her mouth. She said she first noticed it on Thursday.
Thank you for your reply, Grace. Yes, I washed with soap as well. We were messing around for some time before I ejaculated and had the opportunity to wash up. How long is too long?
Do you think the fact that the cold sore was off the side of her lips reduced the chances in any way?
What are the chances of acquiring herpes when a cold sore is present? 75%? More? Less? Is a open cut required for the transmission?
Do you think the fact that the cold sore was off the side of her lips reduced the chances in any way?
What are the chances of acquiring herpes when a cold sore is present? 75%? More? Less? Is a open cut required for the transmission?
One more thing. She denied that it was a cold sore and said it was a pimple. She said the scab was NOT present on Saturday night but formed in the morning. She peeled off the yellow scab in the morning to show me (which seemed a bit difficult to remove) and there was a simgle smooth pink bump (couple millimeters in width) underneath with NO fluid. It did NOT bleed and there was NO sign of fluid coming out of it. There were NO borders of red and there seemed to be circles of dry skin around it.
washing up after sex doesn't decrease your std risk. it just makes you smell better and not be sticky. no reason to use HOT water for it either, it's the soap that does the hard work, not the water temperature.
have you ever been tested for herpes before to know your own status?
don't get the herpes igm test. it's a flawed test and current CDC recommendations are that it shouldn't be used in adults since it can't accurately detect recent infection with genital herpes. You'll need to wait 3 months post encounter if you want to get tested for herpes from this encounter.
no diarrhea isn't a sign of herpes.
grace
have you ever been tested for herpes before to know your own status?
don't get the herpes igm test. it's a flawed test and current CDC recommendations are that it shouldn't be used in adults since it can't accurately detect recent infection with genital herpes. You'll need to wait 3 months post encounter if you want to get tested for herpes from this encounter.
no diarrhea isn't a sign of herpes.
grace
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