Confused about HSV

[abbykn]

I was recently told that I have HSV by my dermatologist because I had some bumps on the top of my buttocks. This was the second time that this has ever happened which is why I went to figure out what it was. I thought I was given a death sentence when I was diagnosed and had to tell my boyfriend of 6 years knowing that the relationship would be over. He got tested last week and today found out that he has oral HSV and his doctor told him that it cannot be spread by performing oral sex on his partner, Now I am faced with trying to determine if what I have is HSV-1 or 2 and it is quite confusing. We both have MS and he says that if it is 2 how can he put himself in danger to contract it. I am confused, hurt, contemplating suicide, and geel like I am in this alone. If we do break up I have already said that I will be single for the rest of my life because who would want to be with someone that has genital herpes.

I know that I may sound foolish, but I feel helpless in this situation. I do not know too much about herpes and how it is transmitted. If one can get HSV1 genitally and what that means. How more severe is having HSV genitally than orally. I am going to fet tested tomorrow to determine and find out exactly what type of herpes I have and am quite nervous and scared because having HSV-2 means the end of my relationship and for me my life; not literally I don't think yet, but maybe.

i really need help and support to go through this as I cannot talk to anyone else about this.

[gracefromHHP]

genital herpes is incredibly common. it is NEVER a reason to end your life!! If you are feeling suicidal, please call your local suicide hotline and/or your medical provider immediately and talk to a professional!  This is not a normal reaction to being told you have genital herpes and you need to deal with this properly.    1 out of every 4-5 people you know has hsv2 and 1 out of every 2-3 has hsv1. It's not something to kill yourself over and it is easily controlled for the vast majority of people.  you and your bf have been together for 6 years so if he doesn't have it and you do, you two already know how low the risk of his contracting it is. you can get the risks even lower with just some simple precautions.

I will gladly help you with your test results once you provide them too.  

I also highly recommend purchasing Terri Warren's book "the good news about the bad news" on amazon. She is our herpes expert here on medhelp and her book does an awesome job of going into the psychological side of having herpes in far more detail than her free handbook does. I think you'll really learn a lot after reading and get a different outlook in time on herpes in general. You can get the risk to a male partner as low as 1% over the course of an entire year of contracting hsv2 from you, that's far lower than the risk of becoming pregnant while on the birth control pill!  

You are strong enough to live a full life with MS dear, herpes is such small potatoes compared to that!

grace

[waterwater]

what testing did your boyfriend have?
the visual diagnoses you had could be wrong- was the area swabbed?