How do I fix this??

[Destiny79]

I've known my boyfriend ever since we were little, because we grew up in the same church. Our relationship just began on July 30, 2011. He really wanted us to be together, and I wanted the same thing due to our mutual feelings for eachother. Unfortunately, I made the horrible decision of not telling him about my herpes before we had sex. I finally disclosed this information to him last week, and he took it MUCH better than I thought he would. He was still very caring and affectionate because I was crying and taking it very hard. I never wanted to hurt him. I was just so terrified of losing him. Now, (a week later) our relationship is very strained to the point where I don't even know what's going to happen or if we're even still in the relationship any longer. I'm in love with him, and this is killing me. We talked on the phone Wednesday night, and he seemed to be very unsure of whether or not he can be with me any longer. He's now terrified of me because of this. It was transmitted to me a year ago by a man I was with for 2 years and really trusted. This has been crushing me internally for the past week, and I've already lost 8 lbs in less than a week, and have turned into a lush. This is so out of my character. He's never had an STD, and I totally understand his concerns about this, cause I know how I felt when I was first diagnosed. I'm not promiscuous by a long shot. I just trusted the wrong man. I'm so afraid that I've lost the man I really love and care so much about, behind this. I'm so lost on what to do. I really need help with this :(

[gracefromHHP]

if it's been 2 weeks, sounds like it's time to consider the relationship over and move on :(

[Destiny79]

I have been talking to 2 of the people who are closest to me. They've listened and watched me go half out of my mind for the past 2 weeks because of this. I love him, and he won't even talk to me. So, I've pretty much just left him alone at this point. Don't know what else to do. I have enough information on HSV2 to explain to him that he's still pretty safe from me transmitting this to him. I want him to know that the liklihood of me giving it to him is very slim and we CAN have a normal relationship. I'm on suppressive therapy with Acyclovir. I haven't had any outbreaks at all since I was first exposed and diagnose with this in September of 2010. I take the Acyclovir only for the sake of that Viral Shedding. I just wish he would talk to me about this. Either that, or just go get some insight and information from a medical professional so they can let him know that this is NOT a life sentence, and it really isn't nearly as bad as what HE feels it is. I'd never had an STD in my life either until this happened. But I've learned that it really isn't a very big deal overall.

[gracefromHHP]

what am immature response :(    can't stand it when someone does that instead of addressing the problem and being honest with you about how they feel.

are you talking to your friends for support with this?

[Destiny79]

I have hsv2...I haven't had the chance to even ask him if he has any questions since I told him because he won't really talk to me. I don't even know if we're still together at this point.

[gracefromHHP]

All I can suggest is that you keep talking to him about your relationship and ask him if he has questions about herpes you can try to answer.

do you have hsv1 or hsv2?

has he had any particular questions?

grace