Hsv 2 exposure

[MarkAnt]

Hi first time In forum but I’ve been using this for years as I followed a lot of Dr Hunter Handsfeild by the way he is a great expert if anyone needs herpes answers … anyway my question is this so I have always been cautious very cautious and I met this Russian woman and for a month we have been having protected vaginal sex I had unprotected oral sex with her as well (I went down on her ) so I asked her before we even had sex the first time if she’s clean or has anything she said no and she even said I don’t need a condom but I’m very cautious so I did because we are not in a relationship and i just met her anyway so about two days ago she said she had a razor burn or a bump on her and her gyno said it was something from shaving she went to get tested they tested everything except herpes 1 and 2 she’s clean on everything they tested so I was joking with her about herpes saying at least it’s not herpes and she then disclosed that she does have herpes (hsv 2) so now I kind of freaked out on her cause she brushed it off as Herpes was no big deal and said that I used a condom anyway I have nothing to worry about …well now I’m really freaking out because I don’t know if she’s having an outbreak …I know I have a low risk but still after a month of sex at least once a day my question is should I be freaking out as much as iam I just got IGG tested in April and I’m all clean across board I’m very healthy I take vitamins regularly I have No deficiency of anything should I be worried a month of protected sex with an HSV 2 positive person ? I’m just asking because I have no one else to talk to and I’ve been referring to this site for many years and it has always been helpful …please someone answer i appreciate it ..and also should I continue having sex with my other partner would I be wrong for doing so ?

[GuitarRox]

You know married couples where a woman has herpes and the man doesn't have sex and the man never gets herpes, right? It's not a given that just because you are having sex with someone with hsv that you will then have it too. She had safe sex with a condom. That doesn't mean zero risk but in general, that protected you and without any symptoms, you have nothing to become worried about. You also gave her oral, you don't have any hsv symptoms on your mouth, do you? So, I think that you can relax.

[MarkAnt]

Yes no symptoms on my mouth I never had any symptoms both hsv 1 and hsv 2 yea I know I’m over thinking it and thank you for that . And I’ve had plenty of partners in the past I was always safe I’m sure I came into contact with someone with hsv 1 or 2 at some point in life as well thank you

[auntiejessi]

If you are in a long term relationship with a woman who has hsv2, and all you do is avoid sex during an outbreak, there is a 4% chance PER YEAR that you'd get it.

If you add condoms OR daily meds like Valtrex, it's 2%. If you use both, it's 1%.

Oral hsv2 is uncommon, and if it does happen, it usually recurs infrequently, sheds infrequently, and therefore rarely transmits from the mouth.

Yes, she should have told you prior to sex - we all should have the full info before consenting to sex - but your risk is really low considering you used a condom.

I don't know why you mentioned that she's Russian - it has nothing to do with herpes.

You should also know that the hsv1 IgG misses 30% of infections, and the hsv2 IgG misses 8%. 67% of people under 50 have hsv1 globally. You've been exposed at some point - your parents, your relatives, people you've dated or hooked up with.

You might also have hsv1 and not know it because the test misses so many infections. 90% of those with oral hsv1 don't ever get symptoms.

My entire point is to try not to freak about it, okay? It's just really, really common. If you can't handle the risk, don't have sex until you're married and you know you're both negative by Western Blot testing.

(I don't mean to be harsh, I really don't. There is just always a risk with sex.)