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I am beside myself (again)
A couple of years ago (2011) I had a false negative for a herpes test. I had two IgG tests following with in the recommended time frame and both were negative. Today I ran in to the ex wife of the man I had a relationship with following that testing. She told me that she had herpes and that she had gotten it from him. She told me numerous other things including that he had cheated on her numerous times and that she had found him on an escort service website during their marriage. Now, I know perfectly well that she can very possibly be lying, she always tended to be a bit of a drama queen, but to be honest we always got along just fine so I can't see any motivation for her to make such things up...
The biggest issue is my AGAIN having to worry about possibly having herpes. I have NEVER had any kind of symptoms but I am well aware that herpes can be asymptomatic. I am also concerned about HIV if there is any truth to his cheating and using an escort service. Obviously I will get tested as soon as I possibly can.
I posting not so much for information I guess as I am looking for support. I am 43, divorced, and have very little family or support at this time. This is such upsetting news. I fear that I will not be able to mentally accept this kind of thing. I had one short relationship after the one mentioned above. I had no reason to believe that I had any STD's and I did not use protection during that relationship. I am overwhelmed with grief thinking that I could have passed something along to that person.
Please do not bash me. I am truly on the edge of sanity with this matter.
The biggest issue is my AGAIN having to worry about possibly having herpes. I have NEVER had any kind of symptoms but I am well aware that herpes can be asymptomatic. I am also concerned about HIV if there is any truth to his cheating and using an escort service. Obviously I will get tested as soon as I possibly can.
I posting not so much for information I guess as I am looking for support. I am 43, divorced, and have very little family or support at this time. This is such upsetting news. I fear that I will not be able to mentally accept this kind of thing. I had one short relationship after the one mentioned above. I had no reason to believe that I had any STD's and I did not use protection during that relationship. I am overwhelmed with grief thinking that I could have passed something along to that person.
Please do not bash me. I am truly on the edge of sanity with this matter.
Actually I guess if I had a comment it would be this. Is there a remote possibility that after being in a year long relationship with someone who has herpes and not using protection that I am not infected? Since he possibly lied about having it in the first place I have no way of knowing if he was on any kind of medication.
I have not been tested since prior to staring that relationship. I received the information that the man I was seeing has herpes TODAY.
In other words
Testing- Nov 2011
Relationship-Nov 2011
Break up- Nov 2012
Today- was told by ex wife he gave her herpes.
In other words
Testing- Nov 2011
Relationship-Nov 2011
Break up- Nov 2012
Today- was told by ex wife he gave her herpes.
If your last test was negative and you did not have any sexual exposures since then you are still negative
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