Okay, so first, there's no way I can know if what you have is herpes. It's really unfortunate that your NP didn't culture the spot. That's the best way to find out if it's herpes.
If you can get to an urgent care or your NP or an STD clinic, they might be able to still culture it. The earlier it's done, the better, but it might still be possible.
If this is herpes, it's not from the 2nd guy. A brief touch isn't going to transmit herpes. It takes time and friction, usually the kind associated with intercourse.
Also really important to note - if your guy #1 has hsv1 orally, he is still infectious without a cold sore present. It's far more likely to transmit with a sore present, but there are times that the virus is active on the skin without symptoms.
It's really possible that this is irritation from your pad, or an ingrown hair or something else entirely. I hope you're able to get it cultured. Ask them to do a type specific PCR on it. If they can't do the PCR, at least have them do a regular swab, type specific.
And I don't know if this is my anxiety. I keep feeling tingling or pains where I go pee. But there's nothing there. And when I pee - it doesn't burn or anything.....yet.